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I Pushed Him Too Far

I pushed him too far,” said the woman in panic mode. Relationships can be incredibly strong one minute and then the next minute they seem to fall apart in front of our eyes. For some women they rely too heavily on the fact that their man says he’ll always love them. They end up pushing him by wanting more than he can give at the time, or trying to change him. One instant he’s proclaiming his undying love and the next moment he’s stopped calling and he no longer wants to spend time together. If you’ve make this critical mistake in your relationship, it’s not over yet. Pushing a man away obviously isn’t something you want to do if you care deeply for him, but it does happen and it is fixable.

If you pushed him too far the last thing you want to do is continue to push him. If he’s retreated and has started to create distance between himself and you, let him go for now. Don’t try to remedy this by badgering him with questions about what’s wrong or what you can do to fix things. Instead, allow him some time by himself while you take the same for yourself. He needs to feel that you have come to recognize that you’ve been coming on too strong and you need to identify why you’re doing that so you can stop it and change things before it’s too late.

If you’ve been scared that he’s going to leave you and you’re pushing him to commit, that’s an issue that centers more on your own self esteem than his love for you. You have to view your life as complete and whole on its own without expecting all of your fulfillment to come from your man. In this case, the best thing you can do is slowly reach out to him without mentioning what your expectations are for the future. Approach him from a place of acceptance and adoration and don’t talk about what you need or want from him. If you do this, he’ll let his guard down again.

If he’s pulled back because you’ve been pushing him to change for you, that’s also an issue that you need to come to terms with on your own. Why haven’t you been able to accept him as he is? Are you sure he’s the ideal partner for you if you can’t love everything about him? Look at your own flaws and then weigh them against his. If he’s always been accepting of you, you need to do the same for him. Just ask yourself whether you’d be happier with him, flaws and all, or whether you’d be happier without him. If you want him, tell him you love all of him and then set out to prove it.

When a woman makes a critical mistake in her relationship it can damage it forever. If you’ve done anything that has caused your man to pull back, there is a way for you to get his interest back now.

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