Trying to get back someone you love after a break up isn’t an easy thing. Your gut instinct tells you to fight for them with everything you have. This is what drives many women to act desperate by calling their ex boyfriend non-stop or sending him long emails begging for another chance. There are a few things you should be doing after a break up that work when it comes to reestablishing a relationship. One of the most important things to do is to give your ex boyfriend space.
When a relationship ends it’s generally because one or both of the partners just aren’t feeling as fulfilled as they did. If your boyfriend suddenly tells you that he’s not happy and he wants out of the relationship you are bound to feel a strong sense of rejection. If you still happen to love the man, it just makes everything seem worse. What he’s essentially telling you is that he wants time apart. Don’t make the mistake of assuming that it’s forever. If you give your ex boyfriend space, it shows him that you respect his wishes and needs. If you truly believe he’s the man you are destined to be with, you need to take it even a step further.
In order to really give your ex boyfriend space you have to promise yourself that you’re going to take a mini-vacation from him. This means that you need to focus on everything in your life but him. No contact with him at all. If you can do this, you stand a much greater chance of getting back with him for good. The extra step that you really should be taking is to agree with him that space would be good. Tell him that you understand and that you were actually considering the same thing. If you do this, and if you do it in a very nonchalant way, he’ll be stunned. It will feel, to him, as though it came out of left field. He’ll feel rejected and a little lost, even if he seemed in control of his emotions when it came to the break up. If you can handle this without losing your composure, you’ve set the stage for him to want you back.