A committed relationship means two people in love, right? That’s what you’ve always assumed it’s meant. You’ve been really happy dating your boyfriend. Maybe things haven’t been completely perfect but no relationship is. You both have tried hard to make things work and you feel that you two have a bright future ahead of you together. It’s lovely when a woman feels that way but what if the man she’s committed to is traveling down a completely different emotional path? What if your boyfriend wants to date other people? If that’s the hurdle you now have to face, you need a plan to ensure you get what you want out of this.
If your boyfriend wants to date other people don’t overreact. That sounds ridiculous, doesn’t it? How could you possibly not fly off the handle upon hearing that the only man you want to be with is ready to play the field. You feel rejected and despondent. You feel like you’re just not enough for him. You have to try your best to not look at the situation from this vantage point. You can’t lose faith in yourself and the amazing woman you are just because he is having a temporary lapse of good judgement. You’re going to show your boyfriend that you’re the only woman for him and you’re going to do it in a way that will shock and surprise him.
Begin by listening to the rationale behind his desire to date outside of your relationship. Many men will say things like they feel things are moving too quickly and they want to make sure you’re the one. Or they’ll claim that they want you both to have other experiences so there aren’t any regrets later on. These may be the real reason behind your boyfriend wanting to date other women but it’s likely much more about him being interested in someone in particular. He may have met another woman that he’s attracted to so he feels he needs to let you go so he can have the experiences he wants to have with her.
It’s hard to face this if you truly love him but it’s important to see the bright side of the coin. He told you before venturing outside your relationship. He didn’t cheat on you and that’s a sign that he really does care for you and respect you. That’s why you must react to his desire to date other women in a very specific and controlled way.
Tell him you understand that he needs this and you want what’s best for you both. Don’t fly into an uncontrollable jealous rage and don’t fall apart into a puddle of tears. Keep your chin up and your self confidence intact. Wish him well on his new dating adventures and then get to work creating new experiences of your own. You shouldn’t “date” a new man if you still love your ex, but you should give the impression that you are. Go out and have fun in places that men frequent. Clubs are perfect for this. Your boyfriend will hear through the community grapevine what you’re doing and it will sting.
When you do talk to him, allude to the fact that you’re in a hurry because you have plans. If he asks with whom, don’t answer directly. These small mysterious gestures on your part will get to him. He’ll realize that since he’s dating other people, you have the freedom to do that now too and that won’t sit well with him if he does still care for you. You need that to happen so he’ll change his tune and come running back with the desire to be committed to you and you alone.
Saying or doing the wrong thing can impact your future with the man you love.
If you still need and want him don’t leave your future with him to chance, there are ways to win him back.