Romance Advice for Women

When you recited your vows on your wedding day you really had no idea of the roller coaster ride that awaited you, did you? None of us do. We all seem to think that our marriage will be completely different than everyone else’s. We believe our charming, doting, loving husband will only grow to cherish us more and life will be like a honeymoon until do us part. That’s the fantasy. The reality is different. When you’re faced with dirty dishes, overdue bills and impatient children, life takes a turn down a completely different road. No longer are you and your husband seeing eye-to-eye on everything. The balance shifts and there’s bound to be tension. There are a number of common complaints that married women have including, “my husband stopped being romantic, he is selfish and my husband expects me to do everything.” Dealing with issues in a proactive way can not only solve the problem, but it can improve the marriage as well.

One great example of how resentment begins to grow in a marriage is when the wife is expected to do the brunt of the household and parenting chores. This typically happens during the time the woman is home from work, soon after she gives birth to her first child. In a man’s unappreciative eyes, his wife is home all day, so she’s obviously got loads of time to do laundry, wash floors and maybe even sneak in the painting of a room or two. Anyone who hasn’t taken care of an infant full time has no appreciation for how overwhelming it can be. Hearing your husband charge through the door at dinner time asking what you did all day is enough to send you running and screaming in his general direction tearing into him about dirty diapers, crying babies and no time for showers. You really must take into account that if your husband hasn’t been down in the trenches with you, that he has no idea what you’re balancing each and every day when he goes off to work.

If your husband expects you to do everything, you have to give him a taste of what you deal with on a daily basis. Pick a day and ask him to stay around to help you. If you have small children, this is a perfect time for him to bond with them. It’s best for you to make yourself scarce by either leaving for a few hours to run errands or soak your weary self in a well deserved bubble bath. If your husband must take on the role that you’ve been playing, he’s soon going to realize he’s a much unrehearsed understudy. It won’t take but ten minutes for him to understand that you’re a super hero. An exercise like this can really go a long way towards getting your husband to see that you can’t handle it all and that you do need his help.

Talk to him as well about what you need from him. Explain that although you wish you could handle everything and then some, it’s not only unfair to you, it’s unfair to the children. Parents should both take the reins when it comes to raising the kids and that includes not only minding them but tending to their ever growing needs. There’s also a lot to do to manage the household in general, and again since you’re in a partnership that extends to mowing lawns and doing minor repairs.

Work with your husband to find a better balance in your marriage. Hand him things to do and then remind him if it slips his mind. By showing him how much help you need in conjunction with explaining it to him, in an understanding and non-demanding way, you’ll soon start to see that he’ll want to help more. Keeping the peace is going to be the reason he starts helping more but satisfaction in helping his family will be what keeps him motivated.

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Your life hasn’t gone exactly the way you imagined it would when you were younger. It’s that way for most women. It’s hard to predict where life’s path will take you until you’re on your way and you realize just how many obstacles there are to get past. One of the bigger bumps in the road may be your marriage. Even if you’re completely satisfied with the relationship and you wouldn’t change a thing, your husband may not share that same sentiment. What should you be doing if he doesn’t want to be married anymore? Is it worth it to keep trying to make the marriage fulfilling and happy for him or are you better off throwing in the towel and trying to build a life by yourself? This is your life and your future and if you want your marriage to work, you need to set about changing your husband’s mind.

Many people attribute a man’s desire to end his marriage to a mid-life crisis. If your husband is of the age for this, you may have allowed this thought to creep into your mind sometimes. It’s easy to blame his dissatisfaction on the fact that he has to face his own mortality and his emotions may be getting the better of him. It’s rare for a man to want to walk away from the most important relationship in his life simply because he realizes half of his life has passed. The problems run much deeper than that and it’s important for you, as his wife and life partner, to recognize that.

Talk to your husband about what is at the root of his desire to end the marriage. Listen to him and try your best not to jump in and interrupt him. Encourage him to be honest and assure him that you’ll do your best not to become overly emotional. Your marriage is at stake here so it’s vitally important that you treat this as the most important conversation you’ll ever have. You need to stay focused and you need to absorb everything he says. Learn from what he tells you so you can have a better understanding of what you need to be doing for him to make the marriage better.

Ask him to consider holding off on his decision to leave the relationship. Tell him that you want to work on the marriage and you’re willing to compromise on any changes that he needs from you. Maybe he’s been feeling you neglect him or that you’re spending more time focused on your career than on him. Perhaps he doesn’t feel as supported as he once did in the pursuit of his own dreams. Whatever is driving him to want to make this major life change is what you need to focus on with him.

Sometimes a bit of distance actually can work in your favor if your husband is feeling the marriage isn’t working. When a person is immersed in a situation that is wrought with difficult emotions they can’t always see the good and positive it brings to their life. If your husband takes some time away from you, in the form of a weekend with friends or perhaps even a short, temporary separation, he may see the marriage through new eyes. The idea of the marriage being over and the reality of that are two very different things. He may just need to realize what he’s at risk of losing and that will be enough to push him back into wanting to make things work because he doesn’t want to face his future without you.

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As a marriage begins to mature the couple involved often become so comfortable with one another that they each assume the other can read their minds. It’s actually something most of us of the female gender dream of. Who doesn’t want to be married to a man who can anticipate your every thought? Most men aren’t designed that way though and if you feel that you and your husband aren’t on the same wavelength it can lead to endless conflict. Expressing your feelings to your husband is obviously important if you want your marriage to be balanced and happy, but it can sometimes be a challenge to tell him what you’re feeling. Writing a letter to him is often a great approach because it allows you time to gather your thoughts and express them in a way that is non-confrontational.

Here are several tips that will help you write a letter to your husband:

Be compassionate. If you feel that your husband isn’t paying attention to you the way he used to or you are struggling with a conflict that you two are currently working through, don’t start your letter by accusing him of anything negative. The moment he reads that you believe he’s wrong, he’ll shut down and anything you’ve written after that statement won’t be absorbed by him at all. Keep the tone of your letter compassionate and not accusatory. Your goal is to get your point across in the clearest and kindest way possible.

Don’t bring up things from the distant past. It can be very difficult not to feel a sense of resentment towards your husband if you’ve been distancing yourself from him for some time. However, this is not the time to bring up something he did a few months or a year ago. You can’t fix a marriage by living in the past. Your focus must be on the future and your letter must be written with that in mind. Don’t allow yourself to fall into the trap of barraging him with a list of everything he’s done wrong since you two married. That’s not fair to him.

Mention the changes you’d like to make in yourself. Although you may feel that your husband is to blame for all the negativity that is consuming your marriage, it takes two to make things work. We all could stand to make some self improvements and you need to be honest with yourself about what you can do to become a more loving and supportive wife. Sometimes a man will spend less time focusing on making his wife happy because he feels taken for granted. Be as honest as possible with yourself in regards to what you can do to improve your marriage.

Share how much you love and value him. Men thrive on the knowledge that their partner really appreciates their unique qualities. If your husband has heard nothing but negative remarks from you it will deeply impact his self esteem. He’ll strive to be a better partner to you if he feels that you appreciate him just as he is. Thank him in the letter for everything positive he brings to your life. Mention what a good father he is and how much you are thankful for his contributions to the family and to your marriage. If you build up his self esteem by letting him know you are happy you married him, he’ll be willing to begin working on making the marriage better for both of you.

Once you’ve finished writing the letter to your husband, place it aside for a day or two. It’s advisable because it gives you time to rethink what you want to say to him. Once some time has passed, reread the letter again and add anything additional that you want to say.

Present the letter to your husband when he’s in a relaxed and happy mood. Preface it by telling him that your marriage is the most important relationship in your life and your wish is for it to be stronger and more fulfilling for you both. If you give it to him in a positive way like this it’s much more likely that it will be well received by him.

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The day you married the man of your dreams you probably envisioned a future filled with love and tenderness. It’s natural for every bride on her wedding day to feel that way. You love the man and he’s your own personal prince charming who will fulfill your every dream and make your life perfect, right? That illusion tends to last as long as the honeymoon or until he does something unappealing. No relationship is perfect, but it’s how you handle the pitfalls that will determine if your marriage is strong and happy or destined for divorce. Being aware of what your husband is feeling at any given time helps tremendously. If a woman hears herself saying, “my husband is distant,” it’s time to get to work to shift his feelings so he feels closer again.

When you first come to the realization that your husband is distant, don’t overact. It’s natural for you to feel somewhat panicked about the change in the relationship but making too big of a deal over it can cause more harm than good. Most men aren’t all that crazy about the idea of talking about their innermost feelings. If confronted by an obviously upset wife a man is more apt to blame his distant behavior on work issues or worry over finances. A man knows that the moment he confesses to his wife about that fact that he’s not feeling as invested in the marriage as he once was, she’ll fly into full panic mode and the tears and demands will begin.

You need to put on your wifely detective hat and do some investigating of your own. Think about your marriage in general and when you think your husband’s attitude started to shift. In some cases a man will become distant after a very large conflict that has yet to find a resolution. Other men will become distant if they feel their wife isn’t devoting as much time to the marriage as she should. This sometimes happens if the wife has a demanding career that steals her time away or if she has small children that she’s devoting her energy to. If you can pinpoint when your husband started pulling away emotionally from you, you’ll have a starting place to rebuild the marriage.

Obviously, you will need to talk with him at some point about the distance that has appeared in your marriage. You need to be compassionate and understanding as you do this. Don’t approach him from a place of anger or disappointment but instead from a place of deep compassion and understanding. Tell him that your marriage is important to you and you want to work with him to make it better for you both. Encourage him to share with him what he feels is lacking in the relationship and make it clear that you’re not going to take offense at the things he says. He may hold back out of fear of upsetting you but this is really when you two need to get your cards out on the table.

Remember that just as it took time to build your marriage, it will take time to rebuild it too. Don’t push him too much as you two work towards reconnection. Instead, plan for time alone with the man you love so you two can focus solely and completely on each other. If your husband sees that you’re ready, willing and enthusiastic about the idea of improving your marriage, he’ll be more inclined to want the same thing. Never miss a chance to tell him how much you utterly adore him and how grateful you feel to be the woman he’s chosen to share his life and future with.

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Your husband isn’t happy anymore. Maybe he’s told you as much or perhaps you’ve come to that conclusion on your own based on his recent behavior. It’s emotionally challenging when you realize that your husband isn’t finding as much fulfillment and joy in the marriage anymore. You worry that sooner or later he’s going to confess to you that he needs more out of life and wants a divorce. If you are living with the fear that this is right around the corner, you need to make some changes in your relationship. Understanding how to make your husband happy can completely alter the dynamic between the two of you and get him emotionally invested in the marriage once again.

When it comes to learning how to make your husband happy you need to let go of any resentment you may be feeling towards him. If you already feel as though you’re putting everything you have into the marriage and he still walks around sullen and with a frown on his face, it’s understandable why you’d grow to resent him. You need to dismiss those feelings though. It’s going to be virtually impossible to want to make your husband happy if you deeply resent him. Try and view today as a new start towards a happier marriage. Leave the past in the past and begin on a course of searching for mutual fulfillment.

Listening to your husband is very important. This sounds simple, doesn’t it? However, it’s not. Too many women stop hearing their husbands after the marriage has settled into a routine. If you don’t invest yourself in each and every conversation your husband starts with you, you’ll soon notice that he’ll withdraw and he’ll stop talking about anything of importance. His feelings will be caught up inside of him with no place to go. Eventually he’ll feel so alone and emotionally abandoned that he’ll seek a divorce.

Make time each day for you two to talk. Encourage him to share what’s going on in his life. Ask him questions and get him to open up more. The more he feels he can share with you, the closer to you he’ll become. Don’t brush off anything he says as unimportant or frivolous. He needs to feel that you’re his emotional safe spot in the world and that means he has to feel as though he can tell you everything.

Another important part of understanding how to make your husband happy is recognizing the value in spending time together. When’s the last time you two went out for a nice dinner alone, without the children? Have you taken the opportunity to spend a weekend alone while another family member provides care for your children? You have to put in some effort to show your husband that those stolen moments between just the two of you are incredibly important to you as well.

Also, take time each day just to tell him how much you value and appreciate him as an essential part of your life. Telling your husband that there isn’t another man on earth you’d rather be with can have a huge impact on him. If he hears how much you truly love him on a regular basis, it will help him feel not only happier, but more content in the marriage again.

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Feeling that your husband isn’t completely and utterly in love with you can be uncomfortable. When a wife starts to have serious doubts about what her husband feels for her it can undermine the foundation of their relationship with one another. Resentment is often at the root of this and if you choose to ignore it, your marriage will surely suffer. If you’re a woman who has been thinking to herself, “my husband resents me,” now is the time to change that. Unless you address why he resents you, you’ll never be able to move forward towards a balanced, happy and content relationship.

If you’ve been saying to yourself, “my husband resents me,” try and pinpoint what caused him to start feeling that way initially. In some cases it’s born from an argument that never really gets resolved. If your husband feels that you pushed him into saying he was wrong when he didn’t really feel that way, he’ll begin to resent you. The same is true if you made him apologize for something that he didn’t feel deserved an apology. Some women taken it upon themselves to throw their husband the cold shoulder until he says he is sorry. If you’ve done anything like this, you can certainly understand why your spouse may begin to resent you.

Another common reason behind resentment in a marriage centers on the children. If you happen to be closer to your children than your husband is, he may feel some resentment over that. Perhaps you don’t work as often as he does and you’re able to spend more time with the children. Obviously this is helpful to them and you but it may prove hurtful to your husband because he’ll feel he’s missing out on the precious moments with them.

Dealing with resentment requires patience and a great deal of tact. You need to address the situation without pushing your husband anymore. To begin with try and identify what you feel is causing him to resent you. Then you need to talk calmly and openly with him about it. Allow him the opportunity to express why he feels the way he does and learn from that. If you can absorb what he tells you and then use that information to change whatever is causing the issue, you’ll find your marriage will improve greatly.

It’s important to make it clear to your spouse that you’re willing to take whatever steps are necessary to move your marriage to a more positive and healthy place. Ensure that he understands that although you can see that he resents you, you want to work with him to move past those feelings. If he senses that you are being genuine, he’ll be that much more willing to allow the resentment to grow and be replaced with adoration.

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It’s amazing, isn’t it? Marriage is rarely exactly what you envision it to be the day you make your vows to the man you love. On that day you imagine that you two are completely different than any other couple that has ever walked down the aisle towards wedded bliss. You imagine that your partner is unlike any other man who has ever been married. You predict that your life will be filled with long nights of compassionate talking and sharing and few, if any, arguments. Once that fairytale bubble has popped and you and your husband are living through the stresses and challenges that every married couple faces you soon realize that marriage is hard work. If you’re a woman who is now saying, “my husband says he hates me,” it’s time to evaluate the dynamic of your marriage and what you can do to change things so you and your husband are closer and more emotionally connected to one another.

If your husband says he hates you it’s vitally important that you consider the context in which he said those words to you. They are obviously very hurtful and strong words and it’s important to be clear about what was driving him to share those feelings with you. If you two were embroiled in a heated argument before he said it, that’s important to consider. Many people don’t have the ability to filter what they say before they say it, especially in the heat of the moment. If he said it during an argument consider that he only used those particular words as a way to lash out at you and to hurt you.

It’s important to share with your husband how deeply his words impacted you. Talk to him calmly about what you are feeling and how difficult it’s been since he told you he hated you. He may be surprised to learn that you absorbed the words in such a strong way especially if he only said them in verbal retaliation during a spat. He likely doesn’t even realize the emotional turmoil you’re in at the moment so it’s important that you share that with him.

Talk with him about what changes you both can make so the marriage is more enriching and satisfying for each of you. Listen carefully to his thoughts as well as his criticisms. It’s hard to hear negative feedback from your spouse but it can be instrumental in changing your marriage so it has a fighting chance.

At the same time look at and evaluate your own behavior within the marriage. If you have been doing things that you know bother your husband, change your ways. If you’ve taken to nagging him because you feel he doesn’t listen to you, stop that immediately. As much as we as women hate to admit when we’re wrong it’s essential that you do take ownership of your flaws and work to change them.

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Your marriage has changed significantly since the day you and your husband exchanged vows and promised to adore one another forever. It’s natural for a couple to go through a time of transition as they settle into married life. Career, mortgages and children take the focus away from one another and that’s to be expected. Some couples recognize the shifting dynamic of their relationship and they put in extra effort to spend time with each other so they can feel connected and close. Most couples don’t have the foresight to anticipate that ignoring this will lead to bigger problems. If you’ve now reached a point where your husband doesn’t have time for you anymore you need to make some major changes quickly. Not only will you feel resentful of his attitude towards you but his emotional distance will continue to undermine the connection you want to have with him as well as the future of your marriage.

If your husband doesn’t have time for you it’s important that you talk to him about it. You do need to be prepared to have this conversation and it’s also essential that you do it at a time when you’re feeling strong and balanced emotionally. Approaching him when you’re overwhelmed with feelings of anger won’t help the situation in the least. Your husband may not even fully realize that he hasn’t been spending as much time with you as he should. If you verbally attack him over it and he’s not fully aware that he’s been doing it, it may make him feel very defensive and this will cause him to shut down and refuse to talk with you.

Explain that you’ve been feeling somewhat neglected but at the same time tell him that you recognize that he’s balancing a full schedule. It’s crucial that you make it very clear to your spouse that you are forever appreciative of everything he does for you and for your family. He needs to feel valued for his contributions to the marriage and the family and not attacked for spending more time trying to earn a living or pursuing his career than he has focusing on the marriage.

Suggest ways that you can help him more effectively balance his time so that you two do have more time to spend together as a couple. Be sensitive when you do this. A good approach to take is to suggest that he bring some of his work home. This can be a positive first step as it will enable him to be physically near you while at the same time tending to the pressures he’s been balancing at his job. If you can help him with the work in any way, be it organizing charts or researching facts, offer to do so. He’ll be touched that you want to help him carry a slightly lighter load.

It’s also beneficial to suggest the idea of one evening a week just for the two of you without distraction. There’s absolutely no reason why you have to invest a great deal financially into something like this. Taking a few sandwiches and sodas for a picnic is a budget friendly date you two can share. You may also just want to spend a few hours alone in your bedroom watching a movie while a sitter tends to the children. It’s just vital that you strip away all the outside influences and find time to focus just on one another.

Once your husband starts to notice how much fuller his life is because he’s spending more time with you, he’ll work to ensure those moments become more and more frequent. Although you may have to take the lead at first to show him why spending more time together is helpful, he’ll soon take the initiative to make it happen himself.

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You never quite know what the road ahead will present to you as you walk down the aisle towards wedded bliss. Marriage is often a whole lot different than dating life and there may be aspects of your husband’s personality that you didn’t even know existed before you became his wife. One of those qualities is often arrogance. Some men are masters at hiding this part of themselves while they are busy sweeping a woman off her feet. However, once a couple has settled into married life, all those little secrets often come out into full view. If you are presently living with a husband whose ego is larger than both of you, that’s an issue that obviously you can ignore. Dealing with an arrogant husband takes patience, measured distance and a deep understanding of what makes him tick.

Arrogant people are almost always lacking self esteem. This seems ridiculous at first glance. How can someone who comes across as so in love with themselves, actually feel any sort of self worth issues? It’s all about making up for their insecurities by treating others in a very specific and negative way. When you are dealing with an arrogant husband you have to truly understand that his issues have much more to do with him than they have to do with you.

If you want to cut him down to size you need to emotionally remove yourself from his selfish behavior. If he allows his arrogance to shine through when you two are out in public, walk away from him. Don’t become a partner to his mistreatment of others. If he prefers using you as a target to pump up his own self esteem, distance yourself from him. That may mean spending less time focused on him and more time doing the things you enjoy. If there’s no one to play into this type of negative behavior, your husband won’t feel he’s accomplishing anything by continuing to do it.

You also have to call him out on the behavior that you don’t feel is appropriate. This must be done in a very measured way though. Simply telling an arrogant person that you think they are arrogant, won’t accomplish much. They’ll take your interest as something beneficial and they’ll feel more important because you’re showing such emotion. It’s much better to sternly say to your husband that you aren’t attracted to him when he acts that way and you feel ashamed to be in his presence. This is obviously tough love and is going to sting when he hears it. However, it has the potential of really reaching his emotional core and making him think for a moment about what he’s doing.

Some people suggest that the best way of dealing with an arrogant husband is to give him a taste of his own medicine. Clearly, you’re not like him and you don’t want to become like him. It’s best not to get into these childish games with your spouse. It’s much better to calmly express your disappointment and then create some distance. This is a great way to get your message across in a way that is mature and rational.

Specific things you do and say can compel your husband to appreciate and love you more. Saying or doing the wrong thing can actually cause him to feel even more distant from you.

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Marriage is all about sharing your life with your husband. The reason you married the man was because you enjoyed his company so much, you loved him deeply and you envisioned a future filled with happiness and fulfillment. Now your husband has shifted the balance of that by pulling back. When your husband wants time alone it changes your world completely. No longer are you looking happily towards the rest of your life with him. Instead, you’re concerned about whether you two will even reach your next anniversary. If this sounds like your marriage at the moment, don’t give up. Just because your husband has said he needs some time by himself, don’t throw in the white towel of defeat on the two of you just yet.

There’s a reason your husband wants time alone and it’s up to you to determine what that is. Obviously you can talk to him about what is causing him to feel the need to disconnect from you. It’s vitally important to take a moment to reflect on the fact that men and women handle emotional situations very differently. Something as unrelated as work stress or an argument with a friend can cause a man to pull back from his wife. Men tend to internalize their feelings and that impacts all of their important relationships including their marriage.

Talk to your husband about the changes you’ve noticed in him. Try not to do this in an accusatory tone. Just mention that you’ve noticed that something seems to be bothering him and offer to help him. Make it clear that you want to be the shoulder he leans on and you’re willing to do whatever it takes to make him feel closer to you again. Just reaching out to him in this fashion may be enough to help him understand how invested you are in the marriage and in helping him feel more balanced.

If he’s unwilling to talk about things, don’t be surprised or offended. Men will often keep their feelings to themselves and that’s in no way a reflection of how they view their partners. You just need to take a different approach to pull him closer to you again. Begin by showing him more often just how appreciative you are of his presence in your life. Take the time to thank him each day for the things he does for you whether that’s taking out the trash or working at a job he doesn’t really enjoy. If a man sees himself as strong and virile through the eyes of his wife, he’ll feel instantly closer to her and that time alone he wanted won’t seem nearly as tempting anymore.

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