Romance Advice for Women

“I think I scared him off!” Gosh, that’s never something you want to be saying about a man you actually like, is it? As much as you want to believe that he’s actually as busy as he says he is, your heart is telling you that he’s been absent because you came on too strong. What did you do? Did you talk about marriage before he even suggested dating exclusively? Maybe you told him that you loved him before he was ready to hear it? Whatever it was you did, the end result is what you really have to deal with now. He’s made himself scarce, you’re panicking and that planned future you had with him is all disappearing into the mist. You’ve got two choices in this situation. You can either succumb to defeat and just let him sneak out of your life forever or you can reinvent yourself in his eyes. The latter sounds so much better, doesn’t it? You may have messed up but you definitely have a chance to redeem yourself.

Scaring off a man is much easier than most of us realize. The beginning stages of a relationship look very different from a male and a female perspective. When we of the female persuasion meet a man we are fond of we tell him because honesty is always the best policy, right? It is, but to an extent. If you come on too strong before he’s ready to hear it, he’ll run for the door as fast as his feet will carry him. The same is true if you let it be known on the first, second or even third date that you’re the marrying kind and you imagine that the babies you’ll lovingly make with him will be adorable. He will panic and the easiest way for any man to deal with relationship panic is to flee.

Now that you’ve been enlightened as to why you may have scared him off it’s time to undo this dating error. First and foremost, give him some time. Bombarding him with calls, emails or text messages telling him how sorry you were won’t cut it. Your behaviour will trump your words and all he’ll see is you trying harder than ever to get him to want you. You can’t allow this to happen.

Once a bit of time has passed, as in two or three weeks, call him up and keep it brief. If he doesn’t answer (and it’s very likely he won’t) leave a short message just saying that you wanted to see how he was, that you’ve been very busy and it would be great to catch up over a coffee at some point. The “at some point” part of this is crucial as it gives the impression that you’re not clambering to see him and that you’re not desperately trying to repair the already crumbling relationship.

Your message will probably be enough to intrigue him into calling you back. Again, no rushing to see him and no professing your desire to spend the rest of your days wrapped in his loving arms. Be calm and tell him that you’re busy through next week but you’d love to grab a coffee right after work in a couple of weeks. Don’t sound desperate and control your nervousness so you don’t sound too giddy to be hearing his voice. Then end the call and leave him alone until you meet.

By handling this delicate situation in this direct and non-threatening way you’re showing him that you’re not the lovesick fool who is running after him the way you used to. If you did indeed scare him off, your new, relaxed and uncommitted attitude will show him that he may have misread you initially. We all can change and showing the man you’re interested in that you can may be the saving grace you’ve been searching for.

If you truly do feel a special spark with a man, don’t allow your mistakes to ruin your chances for getting to know him better and for exploring your connection. We all mess up sometimes and there are actually several common relationship blunders that we, as women, are guilty of. It’s so difficult when a man pulls away because of something you did. Once you understand why men lose interest  it’s easy to shift the dynamic back to a more positive place.

You’ve just been hit by what feels like a ton of bricks. The man you love, the only man you can envision your life with has just told you that his he’s fallen out of love with you or he doesn’t feel as close to you as he once did. It’s heartbreaking to be a woman in a position like this. Try as you might, you just can’t figure out what went wrong and why his feelings changed so dramatically. All you want to do is rewind time back to when he couldn’t get enough of you and told you he’d love you forever. Unfortunately, you have to face what is going on in your relationship and you need to make a decision. Do you accept that he’s pulling away or do you do everything within your power to get him back in love with you? The answer seems clear, doesn’t it? Why let him go if this is the one and only man for you?

If he says his feelings have changed take his word for it. Do not try and convince him that what he feels isn’t real or he’s just going through a bad patch and taking it out on you. A man typically won’t confess to falling out of love unless it’s something that he genuinely feels. You have to recognize that it’s happened and that the relationship as you knew it is now over. Unless you can do that, you won’t be able to take the necessary steps to make him want to be close to you again. Right now it all needs to be about you honouring what he’s feeling and respecting what he tells you. Hiding your head in the sand will not fix this.

Attempt to talk to him about what he’s feeling. This isn’t as simple as asking him what changed as he may not be able to answer that in an honest and sincere way. Emotions, particularly those of the romantic sort, are often so confusing that we have trouble identifying them or pinpointing them. He may tell you that he doesn’t know what changed or when it changed. Respect that he’s telling you the truth and isn’t trying to rub salt in your emotional wounds. If he is able to tell you when he does feel that things shifted, that that knowledge and use it as you move forward. Learn from whatever your boyfriend shares with you.

Rebuilding a relationship isn’t easy but it’s certainly far from impossible. There are a few methods that are worth trying first because doing them will only prove beneficial to you and to him. The first is to just take a breather from all the drama and make a decision to not talk with him for a couple of weeks. This is going to feel incredibly hard and trust me, it is, but it’s worth putting in the effort to do it. The time apart will be a purging for you both. You’ll have time to consider what you’re really feeling and he will as well. Often, just the absence of one another is enough of a catalyst to bring you back together.

It’s important that you try and look within when you want to make your man fall back in love with you. No one is perfect and we all could use some self improvements. Look inside of yourself and think about what you’d like to change and then focus your energy on that. Your goal is to show your man that you can make strides to be a better woman and potential partner to him. That alone will help him see just what a treasure you are.

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“Everything I do annoys my boyfriend.” That statement normally wouldn’t make you bat an eyelash, save for the fact that it’s you saying it, right? It’s horrible, isn’t it? You’re crazy about a man who seems intent on criticizing everything about you. You feel like you’re walking on egg shells at every turn and it certainly never feels as though you’re doing anything even remotely right. Is it really a satisfying relationship if that’s what you have to face on a daily basis? Don’t you wish you could understand why your boyfriend is always annoyed with you? You can understand and by doing so it can give you the knowledge you need to effectively deal with this difficult situation. Before your self esteem takes another step backwards, it’s time for you to learn why your boyfriend seems to be your biggest critic.

There are several main reasons why men suddenly go from attentive, caring partners to overly critical ones.

He just doesn’t care as much about you as he once did. Men will often start berating the woman they are involved with if some of the affection has disappeared. These men no longer feel a need to be compassionate and caring because they just don’t worry about whether you’re going to take it to heart or not. If you think back to when you and your guy first connected, he was likely complimentary about just about everything related to you. That’s because he truly did love you for who you were and accepted everything about you even those small things you may consider flaws. Remember when he used to tell you that he loved that you snorted when you laughed or he found the clothes strewn everywhere in your apartment charming? Now those small issues are becoming fodder for his overly critical nature because he doesn’t love you the way he once did.

His annoyance with you is a tool for his revenge. Most of us are great at holding a grudge. It’s a natural talent that we all have if we feel we’ve been wronged. If you and your boyfriend had a drag out, no-holds barred argument and he feels that you got the upper hand, he may be resenting you. That resentment can manifest itself in many ways including coming out as annoyance. If all of this negative behavior on his part began after you two faced a major conflict that may be the culprit.

His own self esteem needs a boost. A lack of self esteem can make people do crazy things. It can cause people to act out by dressing provocatively in an effort to get attention. Some people become loud and obnoxious just because they crave to be the center of attention. Berating others is another coping tool that some individuals use to boost up their own self esteem. They may not even realize they are doing it which could be the case with your boyfriend. This sometimes happens if a couple is a bit mismatched. For instance, if the woman is drop dead gorgeous and her boyfriend is lacking in looks, he may take to demeaning her to make himself feel more attractive. It happens as well if the woman is more intellectually gifted or has a more vibrant personality. If his ego is lacking and your presence makes him feel even smaller, he may subconsciously feel the need to cut you down just to feel accepting of who he is.

He truly is bothered by some of the things you choose to do. You’d be hard pressed to find anyone in this big, wide world who would define the word “perfect.” Perfection is an illusion and fortunately none of us are so short sighted that we can’t see and embrace our flaws. If you are doing things that you know get under your boyfriend’s skin, he may be somewhat justified in getting annoyed with you. Take for instance if you tend to play your music loudly when you’re working out while he’s simply trying to work. Or maybe you’re notoriously bad at remembering to put things away where they belong. If your boyfriend has pet peeves and you don’t respect them, he may feel justified in getting upset with you. Consider whether you’re pushing him in a negative way before he sounds off at you.

Regardless of why your boyfriend is annoyed with you frequently, don’t allow it to rule the relationship. Also, don’t permit his insults or opinion to influence you in any negative way. Our partner’s view of us can define who we are and sadly, if their view isn’t a complimentary one, it can damage self esteem in very detrimental ways.

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Your boyfriend and you are going through a rough patch, right? It’s worse than a rough patch though, isn’t it? It feels more like a long and very bumpy and unsteady road. All relationships have their ebbs and flows but when your relationship starts to have many more bad days than good, you’re bound to see a break up on the horizon. You can’t expect it to last if you aren’t getting along. Part of you probably just wants to bury your head in the sand with the hope that fate will step in and rectify all that is wrong so you two can get back to loving each other. That’s not going to happen. This is clearly a situation in which you need to take control and fix things. If you’re saying to yourself, “I want to mend things with my boyfriend,” today is the perfect day to start your journey towards that. If this relationship is important to you, all the time and effort in the world is worth it to save it.

In order to mend things with your boyfriend you’re going to have to admit to what you did wrong. Maybe you feel that the tension and distance between you two is his entire fault but that’s not generally the way relationships work. It takes two people to make things successful and fulfilling and it takes the same two people to bring the relationship down into the dumps. You contributed in some way to the problems you two are facing and the sooner you come to that realization and own it, the sooner you can mend things with your boyfriend.

Determine what you feel is the main problem between you two. It may be anything from a conflict in the past that has yet to be resolved to one of you blatantly flirting with someone else. Once you’re able to identify the issue, you can then take steps to remedy it. Begin doing that by speaking to your boyfriend about the issue. This has to be a calm and honest discussion. You can’t approach him on a day when you’re boiling over with anger or filled with sadness and on the brink of tears. It’s also critical that you don’t come at him from a place of negativity. If you start blaming him for everything that is wrong with the relationship, he may quickly decide that the level of conflict just isn’t worth the trouble and that break up you’ve been dreading will become an instant reality.

Once you two have discussed the problem you both must resolve to do better in the future. This is often a case of showing your man how it’s done. If you can work on improving who you are as a partner, and he senses and sees that, he’ll want to follow suit and do the same. It takes endless compassion and understanding to make a relationship thrive and sometimes, we, as women, have to set the bar. Work had to avoid the issue that caused you two to become distant. If you do that and keep the lines of communication wide open, your relationship will become much stronger than it’s ever been before.

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When you’re in a relationship you obviously want your guy to feel the same way about you as you do about him. That’s understandable, right? If you adore him, it’s a great feeling when he tells you that he can’t live without you or he’d do anything to make you smile. We all wish for a connection like that in our lives and when we feel we have it, we’ll do just about anything to hold onto it forever. What happens when your boyfriend is having doubts about the two of you? Once you realize that he’s questioning whether the relationship is really what he wants, it can completely derail you. Don’t allow that to happen. If he has indeed told you that he’s unsure about what he’s feeling, stay calm and centered. If you handle yourself in just the right way, you can banish away all his doubts and create a lasting and strong emotional bond between the two of you.

If your boyfriend is having doubts listen to what he has to say. Men aren’t always that willing to express openly what they feel. They fear that it makes them vulnerable or less masculine. If you can create an environment where your boyfriend feels good about telling you what he’s feeling, even if it’s hard for him, your relationship will already be in a stronger place. Explain to him that you understand that he’s unsure about the future but you’d like to talk about what is causing him to feel that. Then actually listen and allow him the opportunity to share even if it’s hurtful to you. If you can manage this, you’ll have gained a lot more insight into what’s going on in his heart and that’s going to benefit you tremendously.

Once you have a deeper understanding of what he’s been feeling, you can start to make some positive changes that will pull him closer to you again. One of those changes shouldn’t be continually telling him that you adore him. If a woman comes on too strong, it can actually push her guy away. You should make it clear that even though his feelings may have shifted, your feelings haven’t and you are still hopeful for a future with him.  Don’t belabour this point but instead just express it clearly once so he understands.

Sometimes a man will begin to have doubts because he has reached a point in his relationship where he’s simply bored with the life he’s built with his girlfriend. You can typically tell if that’s what your guy is feeling if he says things like, “we never do anything anymore,” or “I wish things were the way they used to be.” Although you can’t recreate the early days of your romance, you can show him that you’re willing to change for the better. Be more spontaneous and create experiences for him that you know will get his adrenaline running again. That might be a weekend getaway to go hiking or perhaps some time exploring a new city. As long as you do it together, he’ll start to feel a new bond with you and those doubts he had will vanish.

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Relationships don’t always move along as smoothly as we’d like. It’s inevitable that a couple that spends a great deal of their time together is eventually going to run into a few rough patches. Arguments are par for the course when you’re in love with a man and in the case of a normal trivial conflict; you both air your opinion, reach a consensus on who is right or wrong and then move on to the makeup part of the itinerary.  What happens if those arguments become more and more frequent? What can a woman do if her number one complaint is, “my boyfriend and I fight all the time!” If you could be saying that statement about your relationship at the moment, you need to make some changes before the bickering pulls the two of you apart for good.

If you and your boyfriend can’t seem to agree on anything, you need to take a step back emotionally and look at the relationship objectively. Typically when a couple is facing ongoing conflict it has little to do with the small matters they’re arguing about. It’s usually about something more serious. It may be that one of you is feeling emotionally disconnected from the other and you resent that. Or perhaps there’s a major conflict and because you two can’t find a solution, you just squabble about everything and anything. You need to work hard to identify what is pulling you two apart. Once you’re able to do that, it’s then time to start rebuilding the peace and quiet.

Talk to your boyfriend about what you feel is the major problem. Do this at a time when you’re not focused on another issue that you can’t agree on. This has to be a calm discussion and you both need to be level headed during it. Don’t be accusatory at all. You don’t want him to feel that you’re backing him into a corner or blaming him exclusively for the issues that are plaguing the two of you. Keep calm and stay focused on the issue that you believe is tearing you two apart.

It’s also important that you two work towards finding a better way to communicate with one another. When two strong willed people find themselves at a crossroads it’s understandable that tempers would flare. Passionate people tend to be passionate about everything including defending their own opinion. Some couples find a great deal of success with the idea of writing out their concerns and addressing them through email or text. This allows for a tempered response and also it ensures that you have time to think about what words you want to use not just the words that are driven by your anger in the moment. Ask your boyfriend if he feels that this may be something you two should try for a time just to see if it helps with preserving your connection.

If you and your boyfriend argue too much you need to find a way to change that. Any conflict in a relationship can spell the beginning of the end.

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You want to be the perfect girlfriend. Every woman does. You never want to hear your boyfriend complaining about the way you act. It stings hearing the person you love most in the world being critical about you. It’s even more painful if he’s been telling you that he feels neglected or unloved. Hearing yourself telling a friend, “my boyfriend says I’m not affectionate enough,” is humiliating and humbling. If your man has complained that you don’t show him enough love, change has to be in your future. If you don’t address this major concern of his in a timely and hasty manner, he may just start looking for someone more willing to shower him with affection.

Physical affection is important for any romantic relationship. To many people, including many men, it’s just as important as sharing emotional affection. If your guy craves holding your hand, or kissing you and you’re not always open to that, he’s eventually going to feel rejected and that’s never something you want to have happen. He likely wouldn’t be expressing his desire to have more affection if he felt he was getting enough. Obviously, he wants more from you and since your girlfriend, it’s up to you to supply it.

This can be somewhat challenging to a woman who isn’t all that comfortable with affection. Many of us are brought up in an environment where physical affection is frowned on. As a result we may become a bit uncomfortable with the idea of being affectionate or we may simply be self conscious about it. If that’s the case with you it’s important to learn now to embrace those experiences and start enjoying them for all the positives they bring to your life.

Begin by being more affectionate in a subtle or innocent way. You can start by holding your boyfriend’s hand more. If you’re not at ease doing it in public, start by doing it while you two are at home or in a restaurant that isn’t crowded. A small act of caring like this will mean a lot to your boyfriend. In time, you’ll discover that it feels natural to reach for his hand and you’ll take comfort in his touch.

From there it’s all about expanding your horizons. When you’re sitting next to him, rest your hand on his thigh or his back. Give him a shoulder massage one evening when he’s had a particularly stressful day. You can even snuggle up to him while you two are sitting together watching television. Small gestures like this, on your part, will help your boyfriend see that you are making a real effort to give him what he wants and needs from the relationship and from you. It’s a good way to ensure that he finds the fulfillment he seeks with you.

If a woman isn’t affectionate enough in her relationship, her man may create emotional distance. If you’ve done anything that has caused your man to pull back, there is a way for you to get his interest back now.

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Something between you and your boyfriend has changed but you can’t quite put your finger on it. Perhaps you’ve been asking him what’s wrong and the answer you’re continually greeted with is, “nothing.” Your heart tells you that it’s something and you can’t just let it go. You adore him and you want a relationship that’s as perfect as it possibly can be. But he seems emotionally distant lately and you’re deeply concerned that he’s going to break up with you. Trust your female instinct on this one. If you can feel a distance between the two of you, don’t ignore it. Understanding why this happens is truly the key to ensuring you can erase it so the relationship grows stronger and the bond between you two becomes more secure with each passing day.

If he’s emotionally distant in light of an argument you two just had, that’s likely the cause. Just as we hang onto our emotions too tightly sometimes, men do the very same thing. If you said anything hurtful during the conflict or you refused to hear his side of things, he may be pulling back because he’s harboring some resentment towards you. If this sounds like what is going on between the two of you, you’re going to have to take it upon yourself to smooth things over. This may actually mean some serious compromise on your part, but this is your relationship at stake, so it’s important to do whatever it takes. If your man sees that you want to find a peaceful resolution and you’re willing to give in a bit, he’ll feel closer to you almost instantly.

He may also be pulling away emotionally because you said or did something that hurt or upset him. Sometimes we don’t even fully realize how much impact the things we say have on our man. A woman may make a seemingly innocent comment about how much she wishes she was married to a man that isn’t even close to proposing yet. Or a woman in her desperate need to talk with the man she adores may call her guy countless times per day. In her eyes it’s terribly romantic but to him it’s more than a bit like being stalked. There are many more examples just like this but to suffice it to say, you may have done something, without even realizing, that has caused your guy to distance himself from you emotionally.

Pushing him right now, while he’s feeling emotionally vulnerable, isn’t a good idea. You have to honor what he wants and that means allowing him the opportunity to have the distance he needs. Don’t allow him to slip too far away from you though. Continue to talk with him on a regular basis and be as compassionate and understanding as you can be. If you show him the best side of you, anything negative he may have been feeling will become less pressing. Remember that absence can certainly make the heart grow fonder so a bit of distance can actually bring a failing relationship right back to life.

When a man wants space or distance it’s because he doesn’t feel as connected to you as he once did.  If you’ve done anything that has caused your man to pull back, there is a way for you to get his interest back now.

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You did it. Maybe you meant to or perhaps you just got caught up in the moment. Regardless of what spurred it on, you’ve now told your man you love him and all you got in return was a “thank you” or a nervous smile. It’s a dreadful feeling, isn’t it? You’ve bared your heart and soul to this man and he couldn’t muster up the courage to respond in kind. Now you feel awkward whenever you see him and you wonder what he really feels for you. What’s a girl in your situation to do? As much as you want to run and bury your face in the sand, there’s a better way to deal with this. Telling a man you love him too soon isn’t the end of the world, although it certainly can feel like it is.

Embarrassment is the emotion you’re going to feel you’re drowning in if you’ve said you love him and he didn’t say the same back. It’s natural to feel that you wish you could take the words back and it’s hard not to question whether the relationship was actually as close and connected as you believed it to be. As much as you feel like second guessing what you’re feeling, don’t. Men and women actually fall in love at different paces. Even though you may be head over heels for him right now, he may still be on the edge of falling in love. That’s not to say that he won’t eventually. It’s just that his emotional maturity may not allow him to feel as much as soon as you do.

You can’t rerun the encounter and erase the words. They are out there now and you have to deal with the consequences of that. Many women in your situation are inclined to discuss what happened with the man in question. That seems reasonable and emotionally responsible, but there’s a catch. By bringing it up with him you’re opening yourself up to the possibility that he again won’t say he loves you too. Even though that may not be the motivation behind you wanting to discuss what happened, there will be an unspoken expectation that he’ll just blurt out the words and the issue will become a mute point.

A much better and emotionally safer approach for you is to pull the spotlight away from what you said and instead focus on moving the relationship forward without any expectations. That means you need to shift your state of mind a bit and stop focusing on the fact that you’re crazy about this man and he has yet to share those same feelings with you. Take the time to rebuild your blossoming connection without any talk of love or devotion. Arrange some fun outings for the two of you and discuss safe and neutral things like work or the weather.

Once you reinvent the relationship and pull the focus away from your ill timed confession of love, he’ll relax and open up more. Then, once he does share that he loves you too, you’ll know it’s coming from a pure place inside of his heart and not from feeling pressured by you.

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There are so many misconceptions that women buy into when they are in relationships. We tend to take the advice of trusted friends over our own common sense. A perfect example is when you’re crazy in love with a man who suddenly pulls away. Your better judgment tells you that he’s lost interest but your best friends and family may suggest that the reason he’s creating distance is that he’s fallen deeply in love with you. It’s so much less painful to believe that , isn’t it? It’s romantic to the millionth degree to believe that your guy is so in love that he’s overwhelmed and just needs a chance to catch his breath before he explodes emotionally. Sadly, that’s the stuff that Hollywood screenplays are based on. Your reality isn’t nearly as captivating as that. If your guy is pulling back, take it for exactly what it is.

Any woman in a relationship in which her man pulled back will tell you that it had little to do with his heart being overcome with love and adoration. It had everything to do with him suddenly losing interest based on something that either she did or that happened between them. Here’s a prime example of what often occurs: you’re dating a terrific guy and you see visions of wedding dresses and children dancing in your head. You tell him as much and he smiles and nods his head up and down. After that sentimental moment, he bolts, and you don’t hear from him for days. You take his absence to mean that he’s trying to keep himself together because he wants the future you speak of so desperately. In reality, he’s thinking you’re way too pushy and he sees you as the desperate one. Your dreams of a happily-ever-after future may have just pushed your prince charming away for good.

The fact is that if a man is deeply in love with a woman he wants nothing more than to be with her as much as he possibly can. He wants to hear her voice and he longs to read an email or text message from her. He works hard to rearrange his life so she becomes his number one priority. He hates when too much time passes and he can’t see her or speak with her. That’s the true sign of a man in love.

Being realistic about what his actions really mean will give you a foot up when it comes to saving the relationship. If you continue to bury your head in the romantic sand and believe that he’s disappeared from your life for days because he can’t shoulder his deep and unending love for you, you’re mistaken. He’s pulled back because something inside of him changed. He’s lost interest or you’ve done something that has turned him off. Remember, many men are fickle in the early stages of a relationship. Pinpoint when his feelings changed and you can use that as a springboard to get things back on track so he does indeed fall hopelessly in love with you.

When a man wants space or distance it’s because he doesn’t feel as connected to you as he once did.  If you’ve done anything that has caused your man to pull back, there is a way for you to get his interest back now.

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