Romance Advice for Women

“He says he misses me all the time!” That’s such a great thing to hear from the man you adore, isn’t it? It brings your spirit up and you feel loved and cherished. Those specific words give a woman a great deal of relationship confidence because they suggest that the man you love thinks about you a lot when you two aren’t together. But does he really? If his actions aren’t backing up those words, which do you put more merit in? Does he try and spend as much time with you as he possibly can or is he saying he misses you and then you don’t hear from him for a week? As much as you want his words to mean he longs for you, don’t be too quick to rush to that judgement.

The phrase, “I miss you so much,” is a go to one for many men. It’s something they say when they want to placate the woman they’re with. If he’s waffling on what he’s feeling and he’s pulled back just a bit, he may say that he misses you because he knows that it will ease your worry. Most men don’t want to deal with a woman who is panicking over the state of the relationship. Instead of telling you that he needs some time or distance, he may just claim he misses you because he knows you’ll find some comfort in that.

You can easily tell if a man really misses you by his actions. If there’s some tangible distance between you two because you live in different cities or one of you is traveling, he’ll be making plans to either fly to see you or he’ll be planning a romantic evening for two on the day you or he arrives back home. If he says he’s unsure of when he’ll have time to see you or his schedule is full at the moment, that’s not a man that is missing you enough to put the wheels in motion to see you.

How to Gauge Your Man’s Sincerity

If you two are in the same place and he has a long list of reasons why he can’t have dinner with you or even a coffee, don’t put too much meaning in his declaration that he misses you. He doesn’t. If he did he’d be moving everything around on his schedule so he could see you in person, even briefly.

It’s so easy to get caught up in the romantic undertones of any relationship. If your man says all the right things you may feel as though you’re being swept away in a tidal wave of adoration and devotion. If his actions aren’t backing up those words, be mindful of your heart. Investing too much of yourself in a relationship with a man who isn’t making himself accessible to you physically or emotionally is a recipe for romantic disaster.

Let his actions speak for him. If he loves you, and does miss you, he’ll make time for you. Men do that when they’re smitten with a woman. If you’re a casual romantic partner, you’ll soon know it by the obvious lack of effort he puts into your connection.

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How can you tell if a Gemini man is in love with you? It’s a question you’ve been pondering since that charming Gemini guy walked into your life. He’s great, isn’t he? Most men born under this sign are. They’re fun, carefree and they embrace each and every experience presented to them. He’s special and you’re beginning to feel as though there might be the potential for something meaningful to develop between you two in the future. The only problem is that you have no clue what he’s feeling or thinking. Asking him certainly is an option but you don’t want to come on too strong. Fortunately, there are ways to gain some insight into what exactly he’s feeling without having to back him into a corner by asking countless questions.

Gemini men are amazing partners. They are very attentive and they strive to make the life of the woman they love, ideal. If your guy is starting to fall in love he’s going to be at your beck and call. He’ll make himself available whenever you need him and he’ll be hard to get rid of when you need to focus on other things. A very easy way to tell whether or not he’s feeling emotionally connected to you is by how often he’s initiating contact. Think about the past week or so. Who has called who more? Did your guy call you before you had a chance to call him or were you the one chasing him down? A Gemini who is feeling devoted to a woman will want to be around her as much as possible. He’ll call her several times throughout the day and he’ll move his schedule around just to accommodate hers. If you’re trying to pin him down for a date and he’s constantly got one excuse after another, he’s not in love yet.

How Interested is Your Gemini Man in You?

Does the man you’re involved with seem interested in you? This seems like a silly question but there’s a reason for it. Gemini men are notorious for not getting invested too quickly with women. If he views you as a casual fling, he’s not going to ask too many questions about what’s going on in your world. If you start talking about a problem you may have, he’ll seem disinterested or he may even be so bold as to change the subject. This is disheartening to a woman who feels an emotional attachment to the man in question, but it’s a great barometer for where his feelings are.

When a Gemini man starts to fall in love, he’ll be a sponge in terms of learning about you. He’ll ask endless questions all centered on you and your life. You may even begin to feel uncomfortable with the relentless attention, but it’s definitely a positive sign. He wants to know you to your inner core and you’ll become his absolute favorite subject of conversation.

It’s worth noting that Gemini men do take some time to really fall in love at a deep level with a woman. During the time before that, he may seem disinterested at times to the point that you’ll wonder if he’s contemplating ending the relationship. Work may suddenly take precedence over seeing you or he’ll spend more time with his friends. If he’s the man you believe is meant to be with you, be patient and confident in yourself. If you become overly clingy or too emotional you’ll just risk pushing him away. Take it slow and enjoy the journey. He’ll appreciate that you’re not the dramatic type who wants a commitment too soon.

You can make your Gemini man fall in love with you by pushing certain psychological triggers within him. You can have the relationship of your dreams if you understand exactly how to appeal to his heart.

“How can I stop loving him?” Women often ask me this in the days following the end of their dating relationship. They recognize that the connection is over but the feelings are still strong and pressing. They feel lost and emotionally vulnerable. For me, after my break up, it felt as though my ex boyfriend had taken my heart when he left me. I was certain I’d never feel whole again and I doubted that I’d ever be able to love. I’m here to assure you that it does get better. I know that right now things feel very difficult and overwhelming. I want you to consider something for just a moment. Maybe your focus needs to be more on helping yourself to feel whole again rather than worrying about moving past loving your ex boyfriend.

You can’t will yourself to stop loving your ex boyfriend, Believe me, I’ve tried, as have countless women before you. Emotions are complicated things. It’s impossible to just decide that you’ll no longer care for him or long for him. If you do that, you’ll be focusing all of your emotional energy on trying to stop loving your ex boyfriend and in turn, he takes over more of your life. You’ll find it much more productive and helpful if you just try and push him to the side for now and immerse yourself in taking care of the person who matters the most at the moment – YOU!

Stop talking about your ex boyfriend to everyone who will listen. This is such a natural thing to do but it causes so much internal conflict. Obviously, talking about your emotions can be very cathartic, but it can also prolong the misery and pain. If you constantly ramble on about how your ex broke your heart each and every time anyone asks how you are, you are handing all your emotional power to him even though he chose not to be a part of your life anymore.

Just for today, don’t mention him to anyone at all. If a friend asks how you’re doing since the break up, respond that you’re good or okay. Don’t get pulled into a discussion about your ex. It will be very tempting to do so especially if your friend asks about him, but refrain from even saying his name. Instead, just comment on the fact that you’re focused on what’s coming up in your life, not what’s behind you.

Distance can be a lifesaver when it comes to moving past your feelings for an ex boyfriend. If you can fill your time with activities that don’t involve obsessing over your ex boyfriend, you’ll find that you’ll think of him less and less. Granted, there will be moments when you walk past a gentlemen who wears the same cologne as your ex and you’ll be overcome with sadness, or you’ll hear a song on the radio that reminds you of your time with him. When that does happen, move away from whatever the trigger is and think about something more positive.

In time, you’ll feel the pull towards your boyfriend will lighten its grip. You’ll also discover that you can think of him without feeling melancholy or depressed. As long as you keep your focus on you and not him, you’re on the road to a new and happier beginning.

In some cases, it’s impossible to stop loving a man because deep in your heart you believe you two are destined to be. If you feel that with your ex boyfriend, there are ways to open the lines of communication again and get the relationship back on track. You can read more about those techniques here.

You feel rejected right now, don’t you? It’s a horrible feeling. Being dumped has to be one of the most heart wrenching experiences there is. You feel as though you’re not good enough and you wonder what you could have done differently. The guy you adore has essentially declared that he wants nothing to do with you anymore. How is any woman supposed to deal with all that in a constructive way? There’s actually one very sneaky and effective way to use rejection to your full advantage. I’m going to explain how you can shift that feeling from yourself onto your guy and get him to feel rejected and lost. If you can do that, you’re essentially baiting a trap that will capture his heart all over again.

Understanding how men interpret rejection is really the key to making this particular get him back plan work for you. You already know how difficult the feeling has been for you as a woman. It’s made you question your level of attractiveness and it’s also likely played a part in how you view how men in general see you. You may feel that you don’t measure up and it’s that desire to be accepted that makes you want desperately to get him back. That’s the same feeling you’re now going to create in your ex boyfriend. This all sounds terribly complicated, doesn’t it? It’s not. It’s merely a matter of reversing the feelings for see he feels inadequate, incompetent and not worthy of your love.

Here are the steps you need to take ladies to make this happen now. I want you to begin by drying your tears, looking at yourself in the mirror and admiring what a unique and special person you are. Your boyfriend was lucky that he was involved with you and by rejecting him now you’ll be showing him that, instead of trying to tell him with words.

Once you feel that you can speak to him without bursting into a sob session, it’s time to take the next step towards getting him back. Arrange to meet him. Don’t try and make this sound like a date or a rendezvous in any sense. This is simply a chance for you to push him aside and show him how wonderfully you are doing without him. Look the best you’ve ever looked. Invest some time into getting ready for the meeting. You want to make a lasting impression upon him.

Be a few minutes late and greet him with a big smile on your face. Let him see that you’re doing extremely well since the break up. Don’t give in to any tears and definitely not a word about how you can’t live without him. Tell him that you just wanted to leave things between you two on a positive note and wish him well in the future. This should and needs to be a short, sweet and upbeat visit. When you feel he may be on the verge of getting up to say goodbye, do it first. You want to be the one to walk away and leave him sitting watching you leave.

If you do this, your boyfriend is going to feel rejected. Not because you said or did anything to make him feel he wasn’t worthy of you but because you demonstrated that without him you’re flourishing. If you can stay focused and avoid the man for a few weeks that feeling of rejection will fester inside of him until he can’t take it any longer. Once that happens he’ll come chasing after you with the hope that getting you back will make his life feel whole and complete again.

Even though it may feel foreign to reject your ex boyfriend if you want him back, it’s a powerful technique that works!

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“I think I scared him off!” Gosh, that’s never something you want to be saying about a man you actually like, is it? As much as you want to believe that he’s actually as busy as he says he is, your heart is telling you that he’s been absent because you came on too strong. What did you do? Did you talk about marriage before he even suggested dating exclusively? Maybe you told him that you loved him before he was ready to hear it? Whatever it was you did, the end result is what you really have to deal with now. He’s made himself scarce, you’re panicking and that planned future you had with him is all disappearing into the mist. You’ve got two choices in this situation. You can either succumb to defeat and just let him sneak out of your life forever or you can reinvent yourself in his eyes. The latter sounds so much better, doesn’t it? You may have messed up but you definitely have a chance to redeem yourself.

Scaring off a man is much easier than most of us realize. The beginning stages of a relationship look very different from a male and a female perspective. When we of the female persuasion meet a man we are fond of we tell him because honesty is always the best policy, right? It is, but to an extent. If you come on too strong before he’s ready to hear it, he’ll run for the door as fast as his feet will carry him. The same is true if you let it be known on the first, second or even third date that you’re the marrying kind and you imagine that the babies you’ll lovingly make with him will be adorable. He will panic and the easiest way for any man to deal with relationship panic is to flee.

Now that you’ve been enlightened as to why you may have scared him off it’s time to undo this dating error. First and foremost, give him some time. Bombarding him with calls, emails or text messages telling him how sorry you were won’t cut it. Your behaviour will trump your words and all he’ll see is you trying harder than ever to get him to want you. You can’t allow this to happen.

Once a bit of time has passed, as in two or three weeks, call him up and keep it brief. If he doesn’t answer (and it’s very likely he won’t) leave a short message just saying that you wanted to see how he was, that you’ve been very busy and it would be great to catch up over a coffee at some point. The “at some point” part of this is crucial as it gives the impression that you’re not clambering to see him and that you’re not desperately trying to repair the already crumbling relationship.

Your message will probably be enough to intrigue him into calling you back. Again, no rushing to see him and no professing your desire to spend the rest of your days wrapped in his loving arms. Be calm and tell him that you’re busy through next week but you’d love to grab a coffee right after work in a couple of weeks. Don’t sound desperate and control your nervousness so you don’t sound too giddy to be hearing his voice. Then end the call and leave him alone until you meet.

By handling this delicate situation in this direct and non-threatening way you’re showing him that you’re not the lovesick fool who is running after him the way you used to. If you did indeed scare him off, your new, relaxed and uncommitted attitude will show him that he may have misread you initially. We all can change and showing the man you’re interested in that you can may be the saving grace you’ve been searching for.

If you truly do feel a special spark with a man, don’t allow your mistakes to ruin your chances for getting to know him better and for exploring your connection. We all mess up sometimes and there are actually several common relationship blunders that we, as women, are guilty of. It’s so difficult when a man pulls away because of something you did. Once you understand why men lose interest  it’s easy to shift the dynamic back to a more positive place.

Is staying friends with an ex boyfriend a good idea? That’s the question you wish you knew the answer to. Your heart is ready, willing and able to give you an answer but you’re unsure whether it’s offering the best advice, right? You still have feelings for your ex so is just being friends really going to offer you anything positive or is it going to make your life even that much harder? The real answer to the question of whether being friends with an ex is the right thing to do depends on what your future hopes for the relationship are, if any.

If you envision a romantic reunion between you and your ex boyfriend then it’s safe to say that staying friends is something you absolutely must be doing. Many women scoff at the idea of being friends with a man they were once in love with. They worry that they won’t be able to shift their emotions from that of being deeply in love to a platonic friendship. You really shouldn’t focus too heavily on the part about just having to be friends. Instead, you need to be looking at a potential friendship with your ex boyfriend as a bridge to something more in the future. By maintaining a connection with him you are effectively keeping a window of emotion open. You can use the friendship as a means to build more as time goes on. Once he sees you as a trusted and supportive friend, he’ll open himself up to more in the future.

By the same token, if you aren’t in search of a romantic relationship with him, being friends may just be prolonging the inevitable. Many couples struggle to separate from one another after a break up. They just can’t seem to let one another go regardless of how much conflict they face with each other. Even though you may feel that a future without him is scary and unfamiliar, if you don’t want to be a couple again, it may be best to break all ties. There are emotions that come with being friends with an ex and they can become quite confusing if left unattended. One of you may eventually develop feelings for the other again which can lead to an awkward and sudden goodbye. Consider whether staying friends with your ex is really going to bring something positive to your life or not.

It can be hard to identify exactly what you feel if the break up was recent. If that’s the case, keep the idea of being friends on the backburner for now. Take a bit of time away from one another to really get in touch with your own heart and your own expectations of what your personal future holds. By clearing your mind in this way you’ll find it easier to understand whether or not a future with him is in your own best interests. If it is, pursue a friendship for now. If it’s not, let him know that you feel it best if you both move forward towards happier lives apart.

Staying friends with your ex boyfriend can be a powerful way to get him back in love with you.

There is a way to get him to love you again if you’re certain that a future with your ex is really what you want.

The question of how to keep a man interested in you is one most of us have asked ourselves at some point. Let’s face it ladies, finding a man is only one part of the equation. Once you’ve passed the point of getting him to fall in love with you, it’s time to start focusing on how to keep him wanting you long term. Relationships change over time and even though he may be chasing after you today like a lovesick puppy that can certainly change tomorrow, next week or next month.

One area that most of us worry over incessantly is other women. The world is full of attractive, vibrant and very desirable women. Your guy probably comes into contact with at least a few of these women on a daily basis. We all know that romance can strike almost anywhere including the workplace. So how do you ensure that your guy stays interested in you and doesn’t allow the allure of some other beautiful woman pull his attention away?

The key is to show him that there isn’t another woman on the face of the earth that can understand him to the extent that you do. That sounds like something of a monumental task, doesn’t it? It’s actually not at all. There are certain things that any woman can do, in her current relationship that will create an invisible bond between her and the man she loves.

Here are just a few examples of things you can do to pull him closer to you and keep him interested forever:

Become his number one supporter. Most of us have learned by the time we’re entering our twenties that there isn’t a perfect man in existence. All men come with a list of positives and negatives. It’s very easy to get caught up in pointing out a man’s negative attributes. Once you start heading down that slippery slope you know that a break up is probably somewhere on the not-too-distant horizon. Learning how to keep a man interested has a lot to do with overlooking all those negatives and focusing squarely on the positives. Tell him constantly how much you love the special things about him. Point out his best qualities and tell him there isn’t another man on the face of the earth who compares to him. Men need to hear this. It helps them feel better about who they are and if it’s coming from the woman they love, that’s even better.

Be spontaneous and keep him guessing. The man in your life wants you to be exciting, spontaneous and mysterious. He doesn’t want to view you as someone who is predictable or boring. Even though it’s very easy to fall into a routine of staying home and cuddling on the couch, avoid that at all costs. Plan evenings that he won’t be anticipating. Arrange to do things he’s never done before whether that’s rock climbing or going to the ballet. You just want to ensure that he never knows which direction you’ll head next. This is truly one of the very best ways to keep a man interested in you long term.

Stay honest and true to him. There is no faster way to lose a man’s interest than to be dishonest with him. Men don’t want to invest themselves emotionally in a woman who isn’t be completely genuine with him. Don’t lie to your guy. It’s just as important to stay true and devoted to him. A man’s ego takes a major hit if he suspects that his woman is interested in someone else. Even if it’s just harmless flirting with one of his friends – it will hurt him. Don’t cross that line ever. If you truly are focused on keeping him interested in you –honesty and devotion have to be your number one priorities.

You can keep his interest for as long as you want once you understand how to appeal to his heart.

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You’ve read everything you could about how to get an ex boyfriend back, right? You’ve asked your friends their opinion on what the best approach to take is. Maybe you’ve tried the infamous “no-contact” rule in an attempt to woo him back. I’ll bet you’ve even attempted to be his friend but nothing has worked. You’re feeling overwhelmed with desperation, frustrated to the point of breaking down and overcome with sadness at the prospect of a life without the man you truly adore. Sounds about right, yes? Instead of wallowing in the negative, it’s time to embrace it. Take for instance, the issue of an ex boyfriend who doesn’t even want to be friends. You need to see that this is a positive step instead of a life changing one. You can actually use his decision to not be friends with you to draw him back to you in a romantic way.

Many women believe that unless they can get their ex boyfriend to be their platonic friend, their future isn’t going to include a renewed romance. That’s not necessarily the case at all. Although it can help to rebuild a connection if you two are friends, it can also establish a strong new bond that will be hard to break free from. If your ex boyfriend has always been the type of man who preferred male friends to female friends, you should see his reluctance to be your friend as a positive. He doesn’t want you to be his friend for the simple reason that he isn’t able to separate romantic feelings from friendship ones. You can use this knowledge to your advantage as you work to get him to want you as his girlfriend again.

Don’t push to talk with him. If he’s made it clear to you that his desire to not be friends also includes no interest in talking right now, respect that. Just because you two are no in contact at the moment, doesn’t mean that the future can’t be completely different. You should be using this time to focus on the woman you are as well as the potential partner that you can be to him.

Just because he has no desire to be friends, don’t allow that to impact your friendships with those closest to him. If you became friendly with one of his guy friends, utilize that connection now. The same can be said if you grew close to his siblings or mother. Invite those people out to lunch and spend time with them. Make certain that they see you as a vibrant, fun and happy person. Obviously word will get back to your ex boyfriend and you want him to know that with or without him you’re still the same woman he always knew.

By respecting his choice you are sending him a silent message that you respect him as a partner and a man. He’ll come to see that as a very positive thing. He’ll also continue to hear complimentary things about you from mutual friends and acquaintances that you both spend time with. This will show him that you’re incredibly strong and emotionally mature.

Remember that the best advice you can follow after a break up is to nurture and protect your own heart first. Your ex boyfriend’s decision not to be your friend doesn’t necessarily have to dictate what your future together will be. For now, give him the space he needs, focus on your needs and enjoy mutual friends.

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Your ex boyfriend is a bit on the possessive side, isn’t he? He’s the guy that tells you that he wants you to be happy and in the next breath gets incredibly upset when you decide to move on and date someone new. You’re exasperated, as you should be. You two aren’t together anymore so he has no claim on you, right? That’s the way you see it but chances are good he views it in a much different way. If you’re tired of listening to your ex tell you that he’s over you yet he doesn’t want anyone else to have you, it’s time to jump off that emotionally exhausting train. You have every right to date whoever you want and once you understand why your ex is still being so territorial you may decide that he’s actually still the guy for you.

If he doesn’t want anyone to have you he still has feelings for you. It’s really that simple. As much as he may claim that he’s happy that you two have broken up, there’s obviously something else going on beneath the surface for him. Typically when a couple decide to call it quits, they go through a short mourning period before one of them jumps right back into the dating pool. The other soon follows and their relationship and the time they spent together becomes a distant memory. If one person can’t let go completely they’ll have enormous trouble knowing their ex is dating anyone. They don’t care who that other person is, they just don’t like the idea in general. That’s exactly what your ex boyfriend is experiencing now.

You can absorb his behavior as romantic if you’re inclined to. For any woman who has been struggling to let go of her ex emotionally, knowing that he’s possessive is actually a plus. You should talk to him about this but expect him to deny feeling anything beyond concern for you. If he’s unwilling to admit that he’s wild about you still it may be time to cut all ties, simply because you’ll continually be faced with his input about the men you date until he feels he can let go.

If you’re ready to move on it’s time to disengage yourself from your ex boyfriend’s life. That means you need to stop sharing so much with him. Your relationship is over and if he continues to contact you to garner information about who you’re dating or what you’re doing, you need to step up and tell him that it’s not his concern anymore and wish him well.

In the case of an ex boyfriend who is learning about your current boyfriend through mutual friends, you need to rethink the people you are closest too. Who you are interested in romantically and where that relationship leads is not your ex boyfriend’s business. Cherish your new relationship and don’t share more details than is necessary with anyone who contacts your ex. In time, your ex will bore of this and turn his attention to someone new.

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Your ex boyfriend wants to be friends. That’s disappointing to you, isn’t it? That’s because you’ve been holding out hope that you two would recapture the romantic connection you once shared and get back on track with being boyfriend and girlfriend. Now, he’s gone and thrown a monkey wrench into the entire thing by saying that he’d love to be “your friend.” Your first reaction may be to tell him that’s not enough but before you do that, stop and think about it for a moment. Although he’s not offering you exactly what you want, he is trying to establish a new connection with you. It is worth it to pursue a friendship or should you just cut all ties and try to get over the man?

In life we tend to subscribe to the “all or nothing” approach. In romance that typically means that for someone like you, if you can’t get your boyfriend back as your boyfriend, you’re not sure you want him back at all. After all, the idea of him being with someone else is truly painful, isn’t it? It’s hard to imagine just hanging out with him as a platonic friend with the knowledge that he’s got an actual girlfriend waiting to spend time with him. You really can’t approach this situation from a glass half-full perspective though. You need to start viewing it as a gift that you can steadily work on growing until it really offers you exactly what you want.

In other words, if you embrace the idea of being friends with your ex boyfriend you’ll be showing him that you care about him regardless of whether you two are a couple or not. That speaks volumes about your maturity level and also how unselfish you are. Your boyfriend will be impressed that you so willingly welcome the idea of being a friend to him.

You must follow this up by showing him exactly how great a friend you can be. That means being supportive without crowding him. He likely knows that you still have strong feelings for him but don’t allow those feelings to motivate your actions. You must present yourself as a neutral friend who only wants the best for him. That means tempering the things you say and do when you’re around him. For instance, don’t repeatedly ask about his current dating status. If he wants you to know what’s going on in that department, he’ll certainly share. Also, avoid talking about your failed relationship. He’s well aware that things between the two of you didn’t work in the past so there’s absolutely no need to bring that to his attention again.

If you can be there for him through thick and thin, over time he’s going to start seeing you as an essential part of his life. You need to be the person who picks up the pieces when he feels things are overwhelming. If you can be there for him, he’ll soon realize that you’re the most important friend he has and that will open his heart back up to a relationship where you two are much more than just friends again.

Saying or doing the wrong thing can impact your future with the man you love.

If you still need and want him don’t leave your future with him to chance, there are ways to win him back.