When your husband no longer loves you it’s time to face the reality of what’s in store for your future. Many women take on the stance that they have to file for divorce because they’re certain that the marriage can’t be salvaged. Other women simply ignore the fact that their husband’s feelings have shifted so dramatically. They continue to act as though the marriage is fine even though deep down they know that living in a loveless relationship is going to weaken their own personal resolve as it robs them of their last chances at happiness. There is an alternative for women who find themselves in a marriage in which their husband loves them but isn’t in love anymore. They can take steps to repair the broken connection and actually, in many cases, they can make the marriage stronger than it’s ever been in the past. This approach shouldn’t be pursued lightly. Before a woman can work to repair her marriage, she must decide if she wants the relationship to move forward. If she does, there’s no better time than today to get started changing the marriage forever.
Be Blunt With Your Husband About Your Own Feelings
Regardless of whether your husband directly told you that his feelings changed or you are just reading between the lines of his words and behavior, you have to make it clear to him that you are still very much invested in the marriage. Often times what happens in a marriage is one person will start to feel a distance between them and their spouse and in turn, they will pull back as well. If you’ve been preoccupied with many things excluding your husband, he may have pulled back from you because he began to feel too vulnerable. It’s a defense mechanism that many men have. When they start to sense that their wife is disconnecting from them, they do the same out of fear that the end of the marriage is inevitable.
You must express to your husband that in spite of everything else that is happening within your life, you still love and adore him. Explain to him that when it comes to your life’s priority list that he’s at the very top. It’s vitally important that you stress to him that you value the marriage above everything else. This will help him comprehend your everlasting commitment to him.
Ask Him What He Needs and Wants From the Marriage
Reading your husband’s mind isn’t always going to prove successful. Generally it’s nothing more than an exercise in futility for most women. Your husband obviously has wants and needs within the marriage and unless you full understand what those are, you’re not going to be able to fulfill them to the best of your ability.
Sit down with your spouse and talk candidly about what both of you need from the marriage. It’s wise for you to focus on what he needs first as this will give him the opportunity to open up before he hears about what you feel is lacking within the marriage. Be certain to praise him for everything he has done and for all the positive attributes he brings to your relationship, family and life.
A conversation like this can prove very difficult for a couple who is struggling in their marriage but it’s going to be the base for all the growth that is to come. Unless you two are completely and utterly honest about what you each need and want from the other, the marriage will continue to suffocate in a stagnant place.
Spend More Time Working on Your Marriage
In order to rebuild the love between you and your husband you absolutely must ensure that you two are spending as much time together as possible. Obviously, there are many other responsibilities that you each have to shoulder but your marriage, at this point, has to be the most important thing in your life.
Try to devote time on a daily basis just to one another. If you have small children, it’s best to work at being alone once they have gone to bed or when they’re at school. You may need to rework your schedules a bit to coincide better with one another, but this is a sacrifice that will be well worth it in the long run.
Also, treat your husband exactly the same way you want to be treated. Tell him you love and adore him often and do whatever you can to make his life enjoyable, calm and less stressful. When he feels and sees that you’re putting in extra effort to make certain he’s happy, that will instantly help him feel a stronger connection to you.