At some point most of us are guilty of neglecting our marriage and spouse. It’s actually something that is too easy to do. With all that life presents in the form of parenting, building and maintaining a career and tending to your other responsibilities, it’s easy to see how you may end up feeling very disconnected from the person you married. If your marriage is growing apart, you need to address the situation as soon as you realize it. If you take a few positive steps in the right direction you can shift the dynamic so you and your spouse are closer than you’ve ever been.
Obviously communication is very important if you feel that your marriage is growing apart. You need to better understand what your partner is feeling in order to bridge the emotional distance that is between you two. It’s vitally important that you don’t accuse your spouse of pulling back or creating problems within the relationship. You want to approach them from a place of understanding. Talk to them about what you see as the issues that are impacting your marriage and be honest about your own shortcomings. If your spouse sees that you recognize that you’ve both made mistakes, they will be that much more willing to discuss what they feel they’ve done to impact the marriage in a negative way.
It’s also important to work towards being a better partner yourself. Consider what you could do to improve not only the marriage but your spouse’s life as well. Perhaps you could spend a bit less time at work and more time tending to the needs of your family. Maybe you need to put in more time at work in order to ease the financial strain you’ve both been feeling. It’s important that you identify what you can do as an individual to make the marriage better for both you and your partner.
Reconnecting as a couple is crucial. In the years after children enter a marriage it’s inevitable that the dynamic between the couple changes. You have to keep the romance alive if you want the marriage to grow and flourish. This doesn’t mean the two of you should be investing a lot of money or time into going out on elaborate dates or stealing weekends away. It does mean that you need to make uninterrupted time for each other each and every day. Plan for it and make it a priority in your relationship. You’ll have a chance to talk to each other as adults again and that will help you reconnect on both an emotional and romantic level.
Couples can love one another and yet find themselves drifting apart and headed for a divorce. There are steps you can take, with or without the aid of your spouse to get your marriage back into the loving place it once was.
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