Relationships can be very tricky things. We’re never given a manual on how to handle certain situations and as a result we just go with the flow and react with our emotions after the fact. Such is the case when you get dumped by the man you love. Understanding how to handle a boyfriend break up is crucial if you want to get the man back. If you just allow your heart to steer the course you travel, your future may include many long, lonely nights filled with regret.
Learning how to handle a boyfriend break up begins with recognizing the power in self control. It’s so hard to keep your emotions in check when the man you love most in the world tells you that he’s had enough and he’s leaving. You feel a deeper sense of rejection than you’ve ever felt and the only way to make that disappear is to turn back the hands of time and get him back. That’s the driving force behind the mistakes that most women make in the shadow of a break up. They cry, beg and plead with their man to take them back. As romantic as it may seem to throw yourself at your ex boyfriend’s feet he doesn’t view it that way. It comes across as pathetic and desperate to him and the result will be that he’ll never want you back.
Therefore you have to show him that you’re not only mature about the break up but you’re okay with it. Cry if you need to but do it at home or in the company of your best friend. When you have to talk or see your ex, be on your best, calm and rational behavior. Keeping your composure after the break up is crucial and will give you the upper hand when it comes to winning him back.
You may already recognize the value in taking a step back from the break up and focusing some time and emotional energy on yourself. This is so much easier said than done but it’s an important step forward for any woman who wants to rekindle a lost love. The best suggestion is to set a plan each day to fill your time. You may decide that you want to volunteer or perhaps go back to school part time. The goal is to improve who you are as a person while at the same time giving your ex some breathing room.
Time alone has a way of settling emotions down after a break up. If you allow yourself a chance to heal without the added complication of spending each moment trying to win your ex back, you’ll find that he’ll naturally migrate towards you again. He’s going to miss you if you’re not around and if you show him that you’re stable and happy even after losing him, it will make you that much more appealing to him. Men want a challenge and one of the biggest challenges to them is getting back a woman who no longer wants them. Be strong and self focused and before you know it, he’ll be calling to see how you’ve been.
Saying or doing the wrong thing can impact your future with the man you love.
If you still need and want him don’t leave your future with him to chance, there are ways to win him back.