Something between you and your boyfriend has changed but you can’t quite put your finger on it. Perhaps you’ve been asking him what’s wrong and the answer you’re continually greeted with is, “nothing.” Your heart tells you that it’s something and you can’t just let it go. You adore him and you want a relationship that’s as perfect as it possibly can be. But he seems emotionally distant lately and you’re deeply concerned that he’s going to break up with you. Trust your female instinct on this one. If you can feel a distance between the two of you, don’t ignore it. Understanding why this happens is truly the key to ensuring you can erase it so the relationship grows stronger and the bond between you two becomes more secure with each passing day.
If he’s emotionally distant in light of an argument you two just had, that’s likely the cause. Just as we hang onto our emotions too tightly sometimes, men do the very same thing. If you said anything hurtful during the conflict or you refused to hear his side of things, he may be pulling back because he’s harboring some resentment towards you. If this sounds like what is going on between the two of you, you’re going to have to take it upon yourself to smooth things over. This may actually mean some serious compromise on your part, but this is your relationship at stake, so it’s important to do whatever it takes. If your man sees that you want to find a peaceful resolution and you’re willing to give in a bit, he’ll feel closer to you almost instantly.
He may also be pulling away emotionally because you said or did something that hurt or upset him. Sometimes we don’t even fully realize how much impact the things we say have on our man. A woman may make a seemingly innocent comment about how much she wishes she was married to a man that isn’t even close to proposing yet. Or a woman in her desperate need to talk with the man she adores may call her guy countless times per day. In her eyes it’s terribly romantic but to him it’s more than a bit like being stalked. There are many more examples just like this but to suffice it to say, you may have done something, without even realizing, that has caused your guy to distance himself from you emotionally.
Pushing him right now, while he’s feeling emotionally vulnerable, isn’t a good idea. You have to honor what he wants and that means allowing him the opportunity to have the distance he needs. Don’t allow him to slip too far away from you though. Continue to talk with him on a regular basis and be as compassionate and understanding as you can be. If you show him the best side of you, anything negative he may have been feeling will become less pressing. Remember that absence can certainly make the heart grow fonder so a bit of distance can actually bring a failing relationship right back to life.
When a man wants space or distance it’s because he doesn’t feel as connected to you as he once did. If you’ve done anything that has caused your man to pull back, there is a way for you to get his interest back now.
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