The day you marry you have visions of forever and a lifetime of love dancing in your head. You can’t ever imagine as you walk down the aisle that one day your marriage may fall apart right in front of your eyes. It’s happened though and now you find yourself forced to say, “my husband wants a separation.” The emotions that accompany this situation are hard to describe. You feel sad, disappointed, frustrated and scared. You have no idea what your future holds and you’re certain that if your husband only knew how much you truly loved and adored him that he wouldn’t want to leave you. You may be right. However, you need to find a way to show your spouse how much you value and need him. At the point that your marriage is at now, that sounds terribly complicated. It doesn’t need to be. There are ways you can change your marriage and get back the relationship you dream of.
If your husband wants a separation the very worst thing you can do is ignore that. Some women mistakenly believe that if they don’t address the situation, it will solve itself. They jump to the incorrect conclusion that their husband is simply going through a difficult time and he’ll work his way out of it and be more engaged in the relationship. This isn’t likely to happen. If a man expresses his desire for a separation, that must be taken very seriously. You have to come to terms with the fact that he’s no longer happy and he believes that he’ll find more enjoyment being apart from you than being with you.
Your husband must have clear reasons for wanting to take some time away from the marriage. You need to uncover what those reasons are. You can do that by talking with him in a mature and civil manner. As women we often let our emotions take over and we neglect to see the situation for what it is. Talking honestly to your husband about your relationship is bound to result in him uncovering some areas that just aren’t living up to his expectations. This is going to sound critical and hurtful to you. You have to be able to see it for what it is and not allow your personal insecurities to derail your efforts to save your marriage. Try and set aside your feelings for a time and really listen to what he’s feeling. If you can do this, you can then start to change the marriage so it becomes a relationship he can find his fulfillment in again.
One of the common reasons why men pull back from their wives is they start to realize that they’re not feeling appreciated anymore. Just as often as we need compliments from the man we adore, men need the same from their wives. If you’ve stopped telling your husband what a wonderful partner he is and how you can’t live without him, change that now. Start sharing with him how much you value him and need him. Hearing this from you on a regular basis can actually help him to feel much closer to you.
Specific things you do and say can compel your husband to appreciate and love you more. Saying or doing the wrong thing can actually cause him to feel even more distant from you.
You can make your husband fall even deeper in love with you than when you two first married.