Your husband needs time apart from you. That’s what he told you. You’re confused about exactly what it means but you’re afraid to ask because you fear he’ll tell you that it means he’s ready to file for divorce. It’s probably not that drastic but it certainly is a wakeup call for your marriage. When a husband expresses his dissatisfaction about the relationship, his wife can do one of two things. She can either ignore it and excuse it off as a phase he’s going through or she can fight for her marriage. If you love your husband you obviously don’t want your relationship to end. That’s why you need to get busy saving your marriage and rebuilding it so it’s stronger than ever.
When your husband needs time apart it’s important that you recognize that it’s a symptom of a bigger problem. Men don’t tell their wives they want a time out from the marriage unless they’re terribly unhappy or feeling very unsatisfied. You need to address the problem head on by opening up the lines of communication with him again. Unless you’re willing to talk to him about what’s going on, you can kiss your marriage goodbye. His discontent will continue to grow until it reaches a point where he decides that leaving you is his only option for finding happiness.
Ask your husband to talk with you. Tell him that you’re deeply concerned about the state of your marriage and that you want to do whatever it takes to save it. He may refuse to open up at first, but if you show him that you are compassionate and understanding, he will come around. You can do that by not overreacting or crying all the time. It’s obviously very hard to control your emotions when you see your marriage crumbling before your eyes, but it’s vital that you try and keep your composure. Men are often uncomfortable when confronted with an emotional woman, so keep things under control and you’ll stand a much better chance of getting him to talk with you about what he’s feeling.
Depending on how it is handled, some time apart does not have to be a death sentence for a marriage in crisis. If your husband insists on taking some time for himself, try not to put up too much of a fight. You’ll do better if you agree to it, even if it’s unwillingly. If your husband sees that you want to put his needs first, he’ll start to see you in a new light again. The key to ensuring a separation doesn’t become permanent is to keep talking to your husband and keep helping him understand just how much you adore and appreciate him.
Specific things you do and say can compel your husband to appreciate and love you more. Saying or doing the wrong thing can actually cause him to feel even more distant from you.
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