“I cheated on my boyfriend,” said the woman who felt horrible about herself. That woman is you, isn’t it? You were unfaithful and now your boyfriend knows about it. Maybe you confessed because of your guilty conscience or perhaps he stumbled upon proof of your affair. Either way he’s heartbroken and you feel devastated for making him feel that way. You wish you could turn back the hands of time and erase your mistake, but life doesn’t offer that option. Instead, you now have to face what you’ve done and try to rebuild the tattered remains of your relationship. It’s possible to do this but it’s not easy. If you love your man though and you truly are regretful over what happened, you’re already on the right path.
Cheating on someone completely changes the dynamic of your relationship with them. Once the infidelity is brought to light, your boyfriend is going to feel a whole host of things and likely all at the same time. He’s bound to be angry, jealous, confused and he’s going to feel a deep sense of rejection. He’ll wonder why you did it and why he wasn’t enough for you. You may feel justified in having the other relationship but right now, as you’re working on rebuilding the bond with your boyfriend you have to be compassionate and you must show regret for your actions. If you’re not truly remorseful for cheating on him, you should really take a step back and decide whether this relationship is really what you want and need.
Talking to your boyfriend is the foundation of your plan to get him to forgive you and want to be with you again. When a person realizes their partner was unfaithful they have a lot of questions running through their minds. Some of those questions are going to be very hard for you to answer but it’s important that you do your best to address all his questions and concerns as compassionately and honestly as you possibly can. He must learn to trust you again if you hope to continue your relationship with him and that has to be built on your willingness to be as open as you can with him.
Don’t push your boyfriend into forgiving you before he’s ready to. He may need to take a bit of time for himself to work through his own feelings regarding your infidelity. Give him that. He may also want to take a break so he can consider what is best for him without any contact with you for a time. As hard as it will be to do that, you must. It’s very important to do whatever you can to make him feel that his needs matter more than your own. If you can do that, he’ll see that you genuinely regret what happened and that he’s the most important person in your world now and in the future.
When a woman makes a critical mistake in her relationship it can damage it forever. If you’ve done anything that has caused your man to pull back, there is a way for you to get his interest back now.
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