“I got angry with my boyfriend and now I regret it.” You’re saying this but you’re unsure of how to get him to forgive you. In the heat of the moment you felt justified with getting so upset but now, after having a cooling down period, you realize you overreacted. His feelings are hurt. You feel horrible. The problem is that he isn’t responding to you the way he used to. Maybe he says it’s okay and he forgives you but you can sense that his feelings have shifted a bit and he doesn’t feel nearly as close to you as he did before your outburst. Short of turning back time is there anything you can do to remedy this and pull him back? You can change things for the better but you have to swallow your pride and find all the determination and patience within you that you can muster.
If you got angry with your boyfriend, the first thing you have to do is apologize, in the right way. Saying, “I’m sorry,” doesn’t always cut it especially if you said hurtful things during your angry outburst. You have to make an effort to get him to understand the depth of your sincerity and how badly you feel for treating him in the manner you did. Compose yourself and then tell him that you’ve been thinking a lot about your behavior on the day in question and you’re ashamed at yourself. Let him see that you mean what you’re saying and tell him that you’d do anything to take the hurt away from him. If you do this he’ll feel the depth of how genuinely remorseful you are. This can go a long way towards mending the fences you’ve broken.
You also need to be patient with him. When a person is hurt emotionally by their partner it can take some time to move past that hurt. Just as forgiveness has to come on its own schedule, forgetting what happened has to as well. Although he may not fully forget what happened, it will become a distant memory in time. Until then you have to remain a positive force in his life and you also must refrain from anymore emotional outbursts. Allow your behavior now to speak for you by being a patient, supportive and loving partner.
Treat him as the treasure that he is if you want him to feel closer to you again. You may feel embarrassed each time you’re around him now because you’ll sense that he’s thinking about what happened. He may be but don’t allow that to deter you from remaining a loving and committed girlfriend. If you work at controlling your temper while you’re showing him how much you value him as your partner, he’ll see the positive changes in you and it will help him get over what happened sooner.
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