Your husband says he is not in love anymore. It broke your heart and your spirit when you heard him say it. You don’t know how it happened or what the future holds for you now. All you do know is that the one man you truly adore in the world doesn’t love you the way he used to. Your initial thought may be that the only thing left to do is file for divorce. Before you take that drastic step, stop and consider whether it may be worthwhile to work on the relationship. Even though he’s said now that he doesn’t care for you the way he once did, it doesn’t mean that you can’t rekindle those feelings. You can and you may be surprised to learn that you can actually create a new love with him that is stronger than either of you ever imagined was possible.
If your husband says he is not in love anymore consider the fact that he could be speaking to you from a place of boredom and uncertainty. What happens in many marriages is the couple begins to drift apart emotionally and physically because they have so many outside things to tend to. Those things generally include work, the children and even tending to things around the house. Eventually the couple feels so disconnected that one or both of them think they’ve fallen out of love. That may not be the case at all.
Talk to your husband openly about what he feels. If he tells you that he really does feel that he’s come to a place where he’s not close to you anymore, explain that you want to give the marriage one more try. Be honest and genuine when you do this but try your best to remain calm. You don’t want him to have to deal with an overly emotional wife who is on the cusp of begging him to stay with her. Present yourself as a calm woman who is in control of her emotions and he’ll respect you for it.
You need to start showing your husband just how much you value and love him. Think back to when you two first got married and how you treated him like the treasure he was. Do that again now. Make time to spend with him and ensure that you tell him each day why you love him so much. He may seem cold and distant at first, but it will impact him in time and he’ll start to open back up.
The thing that men crave from their wives is validation as men. He wants to know that you think he is the most amazing man you’ve ever met. Tell him that and stop nagging him if that’s become par for the course in your relationship. If he feels better about himself when he’s around you, he’ll feel instantly closer to you.
Specific things you do and say can compel your husband to appreciate and love you more.
Saying or doing the wrong thing can actually cause him to feel even more distant from you. You can make your husband fall even deeper in love with you than when you two first married.