I Said I Love You and He Didn’t Say it Back

I said I love you and he didn’t say it back.” Ouch. Talk about embarrassing. The moment the words left your lips and you waited with baited breath for his response, you had reservations. You hoped beyond hope that he’d say it too. When he said, “thank you,” or “that’s sweet,” you knew that you had just firmly planted your foot into your mouth. Unfortunately, you can’t rewind time and take the words back. They’re out there and now there’s this awkwardness between the two of you. What’s a girl to do in this situation? The very best move you can make may surprise you.

Your gut instinct when you say I love you to a man and he doesn’t respond is to apologize or make up an excuse for why it happened. You may feel inclined to say that you were overcome with emotion in that moment or perhaps you’ll pretend it just slipped out. There’s really no way for you to make it disappear and talking about it will only bring more attention to it, so avoid doing that.

Obviously, he isn’t ready to say it to you or “I love you too,” would have followed your proclamation. You’re probably going to focus a lot on that fact and it may drive you to decide to have a talk with him about where the relationship stands. Again, this is not advisable at all. What he’ll likely say is that you’re right and he’s not in love with you yet. Then he’ll feel pressured to feel things he doesn’t and you’ll feel hurt that you’ve invested so much of yourself into a guy who doesn’t feel the same way about you as you do about him.

Instead of over thinking this and trying to back pedal you need to move forward. Forget that the words ever left your lips. Don’t focus on it at all. Instead, engage him in fun activities that aren’t heavy or threatening. That means no late night romantic dinners at your place and no overnight trips to the mountains or the beach. Instead, go on a nature hike on a warm weekend afternoon or invite him out to a gallery opening. Your goal is to make him feel comfortable.

It goes without saying that you shouldn’t be proclaiming your love to him again until he’s ready to reciprocate. That said, ensure that he feels that he can tell you anything and continue to move the relationship in a forward direction. Once he feels closer to you and does tell you that he loves you, you’ll know then that it’s okay for you to tell him too.

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