“I got too serious and he pulled back,” said the woman full of regret. Right now you’re that woman, aren’t you? You fell for him fast and before you knew it you were telling him everything he meant to you. The shocked and uncomfortable look on his face in response was enough to let you know that you pushed things too far. Obviously, you can’t take back the words. Your thoughts and feelings are out there now and you’ve got to deal with them. As much as you may feel inclined to go bury your head in the sand, you already know that won’t accomplish anything. You’ve got to pick up your pride and rethink the relationship before you lose the man you care about for good.
When a woman gets too serious too soon it tends to put a great deal of pressure on the man in her life. We have an inner instinct that lets us know when we’ve met a man we believe may be the one for us. It’s so hard to contain that and not scream what you feel from the rooftops. The problem is that men tend to pace themselves a bit more when it comes to sharing what they feel. If you pour your heart and soul out before he’s close to being ready to do the same, he’ll pull back violently. This is actually often the point when a man will run for the door never to be seen again.
If it’s been a few days since you shared how serious your feelings are and he’s nowhere to be seen, you have to take matters into your own hands. Obviously doing nothing isn’t an option. If you take that route, you may as well forget about him right now. He won’t make the effort to reconnect with you. You’ve spooked him and he’s unsure when or if he’ll be able to share those same feelings with you.
You need to backpedal. You have to try and turn back the hands of time in a sense. You’re going to reach out to him without making it obvious that you messed up. If you call him and try and explain why you felt the need to get so serious so soon and share that with him, he’ll feel even more uncomfortable than he does now.
Instead, you’ve got to make him see that you’ve changed your tune. Simply call the man up and make some small talk. Don’t you dare ask him why he hasn’t called you. You know why. Just focus the discussion on general things such as the weather or a movie you’ve seen recently. This initial call is meant to break the ice and to help him feel more at ease.
From this point on it’s all a matter of reinventing yourself in his eyes. It’s not nearly as hard as it sounds. You’ll just view him as someone you enjoy being around and you’ll keep your feelings to yourself. Invite him out for friendship type dates and be the one to treat him once in a while. This will show him another side of you without the added pressure of feeling as though you’re on the lookout for something super serious.
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