How to Handle Men Scared of Commitment

Men scared of commitment offer a unique relationship challenge. If you happen to get involved with a man like this you typically don’t realize it until it’s much too late. You’ve happily fallen head over heels in love only to discover that his definition of a long term relationship doesn’t exist. As you wait patiently for him to decide to commit to you he gets more and more skilled with coming up with excuses for why he can’t. You find yourself in a relationship in which you’re deeply in love with a man who won’t take your needs seriously. You don’t have to continue living like this. You have the ability to get what you want from him. The key is to understand how to handle his fears in such a way that he’ll come to see that being committed to you is exactly what he wants and needs.

In most cases men scared of commitment can overcome those fears with the right approach. Some men who are fearful of getting too serious about a woman feel that way mainly because they sense that their entire existence will have to change once they agree to take the relationship to a new level. They’ve heard horror stories from friends about how their freedom is snatched away after marriage and how they have to forgo going out with male friends for evenings at home watching romantic movies on television. If your guy happens to have a lot of unhappily married friends this could be the problem. In this case you have to continually reiterate how you love your own freedom. If he sees that you’re not willing to change dramatically once a commitment is in place he’ll know that you don’t expect him to change either.

Some men who claim to be afraid of commitment are actually just wary of it. The reason being that they aren’t sure they’ve found the right woman yet. You can typically tell if your guy feels this way about you if he never mentions the idea of marriage. Often a man like this will blatantly talk about how he’s not sure his girlfriend is the right woman for him and he’ll do it right in front of her. If he never suggests that you two are destined to be together or soul mates, he may not see you as such. If you think that’s the reason he’s not ready to commit to you, you have to show him that you are indeed the woman he needs.  Distance yourself from him a bit and let him have a taste of missing you. That’s often enough to push any man into rethinking just how much he loves his girlfriend. It’s certainly true that absence does make the heart grow fonder so make yourself scarce so he can start missing you.

You don’t have to wait for him to decide whether or not he’s ready to commit to you. If you are tired of putting your dreams on hold because he’s commitment phobic, there are things you can do to make him want to marry you now.

Learn right now what you need to do to make him fall to his knees and beg you to marry him.

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