He wants to date other people. The moment your boyfriend said that you felt the future you imagined being torn away from you. You couldn’t believe your ears. The last thing you want is to see anyone else. How can you even consider it given how much you love him, right? He obviously sees things very differently than you do. You have to do whatever you can to try and salvage the relationship. The problem is that unless you do the right things at the right time you may cause even more emotional distance between the two of you and the relationship will be over for good.
The normal reaction you’re likely to have when he says he wants to see other people is to fight him about it. You’re going to feel envious, rejected and angry. Essentially what your boyfriend is telling you is that he’s not happy with you so he needs to see what else is out there. There’s absolutely no way that won’t hurt. You have to process that pain though and then pick your heart up off the ground and get to work changing his mind in a very subtle and specific way.
As hard as it is going to be when he tells you that you two need a break so you can date others, agree with him. Naturally, you’re not going to feel this is a positive step, but it’s actually the best reaction you can have. First and foremost, by not falling apart emotionally and begging him to reconsider, you’re showing him how strong and resilient you are. He’ll be blown away by this and actually very confused.
By agreeing with him about seeing other people you’re also sending him a subtle message that you’re going to do the same thing. What you may not realize right at this moment is that your boyfriend hasn’t given any thought at all to the idea of you dating other men. He’s selfishly been considering what it will be like for him to see other women. The moment he realizes that you may just start getting to know another guy he’ll rethink his decision.
Once you’ve told him that you’re okay with the idea of seeing others, give him some space. Don’t call him up every day asking if he’s dating. Don’t go to the same night spots as he does hoping to catch him with another woman. If you do anything like that you’ll be undermining your plan to get him back. You must appear to not really care what’s going on with him. Your ignoring him is ultimately what will draw him back because he’ll see that you’re perfectly fine without him.
You can change things if he wants to date other people.
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