Can you convince a man to get married? The quick answer to that question is, yes, you can. The caveat to the answer is why would you want to? If you desperately want a commitment from your man and he’s resistant to that, pushing him to get married to you is only going to result in you forever wondering if he would have ever popped the question on his own. Although it’s not advisable to try and convince him to marry you, persuading him to is a whole different ball game and one you may just want to brush up on. If you’re tired of waiting impatiently for the proposal you believe you’re destined to get, you actually can take measures to show your boyfriend why marrying you is the best thing for him.
The main difference between trying to convince a man to marry you and persuading him to is the approach. Convincing him is obviously going to take a lot of effort on your part. You’d have to talk to him until you’re blue in the face about why marrying you is a great thing. There would come a point where you’d feel very much like a used car salesman, attempting to make the sale. Working this hard at trying to get a man to want to be with you for the long term is insulting. You’ll end up questioning whether he truly wants to be with you. After all, getting a commitment shouldn’t require all that much convincing, right?
In order to persuade him to marry you, you’re going to have to do a lot less selling and a whole lot more focusing. The focus for you isn’t going to be on him and trying to get him to want to commit to you. It’s instead going to be on you.
In virtually all dating relationships, a point is reached where a proposal is the next logical step. If you’re fortunate that proposal comes quickly. If you’re not, you could ultimately wait months, if not years for it. You don’t want that to happen.
That’s why shifting the focus in the relationship is so essential. If you start spending more of your time planning your own future, and less time worrying over whether that future includes him, he’ll notice a change in your attitude almost instantly.
You do need to be subtle about this. The best way is to stop seeing him every night. Make other plans at least a few nights a week. Stop telling him everything that is going on in your life. Hold back a bit. This shows him that you feel disconnected from him. Lastly, don’t consult him on every decision you make anymore. You don’t need to and by doing so in the past, you were creating a closeness that should have been reserved for marriage.
It won’t take him long to get the hint that you’re not going to continue to wait endlessly for him to propose to you. He’ll feel you slipping away from you which is much more powerful than you trying to push him into a commitment.
Learn right now what you need to do to make him fall to his knees and beg you to marry him.