You’ve been dating a great guy. Things were going along very well but now you haven’t heard from him in 3 days. You’ve been replaying the last time you saw him over and over again in your mind. You can’t seem to pick out anything that you did or said that may have caused him to pull back. Try as you might you just can’t pinpoint anything at all that would have resulted in him ignoring you like this. You may be surprised to know that the way you see these 3 days of silence is possibly very different than the way your man sees it. Once you understand his point of view, you’ll see exactly what you have to do if you find yourself waiting endlessly to hear from him.
To a woman 3 days seems like forever when you’re waiting for a call from the guy you care for. With each minute that passes you start to wonder whether that’s the end of things. You run these horrible scenarios through your mind of him meeting someone else on his way home from your date. He’s probably fallen in love with her and forgotten all about you, right? That’s not the case at all. In fact, he likely hasn’t even thought about calling you the past 3 days because he feels so comfortable in his relationship with you.
He’s likely gotten busy with something that needs his undivided attention. That or he had plans with friends and got engrossed in that. In the early stages of any dating relationship, men tend to take things much slower than women do. They don’t feel that drive to talk every day like we do.
The very best thing you can do if you haven’t heard from him in 3 days is just to continue on with your life. Don’t allow yourself to get caught up in worrying about what’s going on in his heart and mind. If you do this you’ll just be hurting yourself because you’ll feel anxious and uneasy over something that isn’t worth worrying about.
Obviously, you are going to wonder if calling him is a good choice. It’s actually not. If you do call him, you’re going to do it with a chip already on your shoulder. He’ll hear something different in your voice. If you confess that you were upset that he didn’t call, he’ll feel that you’re being too clingy and dramatic.
Wait for him to call and when he does don’t question why it took so long. Instead, take on the tone of a friend and keep the conversation short and to the point. Don’t you dare tell him that you’ve missed him or that you felt as though you were waiting forever for him. Instead, be cordial and polite but a bit removed. If you do this, he’ll realize that you’re silently telling him that he took too long to call and he’ll remedy that by calling sooner next time.
If you haven’t heard from him in awhile, don’t call him!
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