“How do I stop my divorce and save my marriage?” That question is always said with a deep sense of sadness and regret. For many couples it’s hard to know when things went so terribly wrong. You never envision, on your wedding day, that you’ll end up in the place you are now. We always go into marriage with the very best intentions, but sometimes that’s just not enough. Once the notion of divorce pops up, it’s hard to move past it. The spouse who talked about it first feels guilty and the spouse, who wasn’t thinking of it before, can’t focus on anything but the fact that their partner wants out.
As hard as it is to be in a marriage that you know is falling apart, you don’t have to simply give up and allow the relationship to die. You do have the ability to stop the divorce so you and your partner can forge ahead with a plan to rebuild your marriage. This may feel impossible given what you two are dealing with now but it’s not.
Communication is something you hear a lot of when your marriage is failing. We all know the importance of talking to our partner about what we feel. However, the actual act of talking can become very challenging when you two are always at odds. Even the most innocent of conversations can turn into a full blown argument. You both may have given up on the idea of talking of anything of substance. If this is the case, that has to change as soon as possible.
Work with one another to devise a plan of open communication. It may include doing things like writing each other a letter detailing what you’re feeling or having an egg timer on hand so each person can talk for a set period of time without interruption. The main thing is to find a way to talk without it causing either of you too much pain or anxiety.
You have to be willing to forgive your spouse if you want to stop your divorce and save your marriage. You both likely have been holding onto a great deal of resentment and anger. It’s hard to forgive when the person you are closest to hurts you. You have to learn to let go of all of that pain if you hope to move forwards toward reconciliation. Be the leader and show your spouse how to do this by treating them in the same kind and compassionate manner you want to be treated. Something that seems as insignificant as this can actually have a tremendous impact on the relationship in a positive way. You both need to get back to a place where you appreciate each other.
There are steps you can take, with or without the aid of your husband to get your marriage back into the loving place it once was.
You can save your marriage and rebuild it into a more connected, satisfying relationship.