You had sex with him on the first date. I’m going to go out on a limb here and guess that you regret that decision. It likely wasn’t even so much as a decision as a compulsion. He was attractive, you were feeling adventurous and things just happened. Now, looking back you wish you would have had more self control. Perhaps he hasn’t called since or he just keeps telling you he’s too busy to see you again. Regardless, you’ve got the message he’s sending loud and clear. His interest in you fell off the side of a cliff and now you need to find a way to get it back.
The fact that you had sex with him on a first date can’t be undone. As much as you wish you could hop in a homemade time machine and transport yourself back to that date, you can’t. The deed is done and his reaction is what it is. You have to focus on moving forward and showing him that there’s a lot more to you than what goes on behind closed doors. It’s easy to do that if you understand the steps to take.
Step one is simple enough. You’re going to make it clear that you’d enjoy seeing him again. This time though you’re going to give him some subtle hints about what your date will entail and intimacy isn’t going to be a part of that. Ask him to meet you at a restaurant or coffee bar. Keep things light and don’t talk about your mistimed intimacy. You don’t want to bring anymore attention to that. If he brings it up, let him share what he feels and then just tell him once that it’s not your typical pattern of behavior. Don’t launch into a speech about how you’ve never done it before but you were just so carried away by lust. He doesn’t need to hear all that.
It’s crucial that you don’t sleep with him for at least a few weeks. You’re going to allow your body language to speak for you when it comes to getting this message across to him. If you make an announcement to him about how you’re not going to jump back into bed with him for the foreseeable future, he’ll disappear. Arrange to meet him instead of having him pick you up and don’t allow yourself to be in a position where you’re alone with him and intimacy is an option. Just keep things friendly and flirtatious. If you do that, he’ll see all the other, much more fascinating, parts of you.
You had sex with him on the first date and now wish you could turn back time. If this sounds like you, there is a way to fix this mistake and get his interest back now.
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