I want him to marry me. You’ve said it. You’re not alone. Many of us have done the very same thing when we’ve been with a man for some time and marriage seems to be the very last thing on his mind or his agenda. How incredibly frustrating is it to be involved with a man you adore who just won’t move beyond the dating phase? You feel confused, a little rejected and it’s certainly understandable if you even reach a point where you begin to question your own appeal. Obviously, you need to change the situation or you two will be still boyfriend and girlfriend when you plan your retirement.
If you’ve said, “I want him to marry me,” more than once, it’s too many times. When you’re in a relationship and you feel that it’s reached a point where marriage is the next logical step, hopefully your man is on the same page as you. If he’s not and you continually find yourself trying to convince him to get engaged or even consider the idea of marriage, that’s a problem. You’re demeaning yourself when you start nagging him about marrying you. Think about it for a moment. Do you really want to have to bully your boyfriend into becoming your husband? Of course not!
Words generally don’t work in a situation like this. You can talk until you’re red in the face to your boyfriend about marrying you. If he doesn’t want to, it won’t change a thing. Actions are what you need and there are particular actions that will make him realize that being your husband is exactly what he wants and needs.
Right now, in his mind, things are likely close to perfect. He loves you and he knows you love him. Perhaps you do bring up the idea of marriage too much for his liking, but chances are good that he’s learned how to tune you out. He has everything he wants and he doesn’t need to take the relationship to the next level. If you’ve told him that you want to be with him forever and you see the two of you growing old together, he doesn’t necessarily see a need for marriage to be part of that. In other words, his life is near perfect and he sees no reason to change anything.
That’s why you need to shake things up a bit. You absolutely must change your focus from being his girlfriend to being an independent woman. Start making more decisions on your own. Go out with your friends more and don’t be as quick to jump into plans with your guy. If he wants you to always be there for him, he has to learn that, for you, that means an engagement ring and wedding. A little distance is often all that a woman has to use to get her guy to pop the question so they can get on with their happily-ever-after future.
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