Who should initiate the calling in a relationship? How many of us have asked this exact question when we’ve been struggling with the issue of telephone calls with our man? It should be simple. If we want to talk to the man we adore, we pick up the phone and call him, right? Wrong! Too many women make this innocent mistake day-after-day without fully realizing the impact it has on their relationship.
If you always initiate the calling in your relationship you are causing yourself more heartache. Any woman who calls her man all the time will inevitably start to feel as if she’s pulling more than her own weight when it comes to communication. If you always call your partner, he never has any reason to call you. If he doesn’t call you, you’re going to feel neglected and that can fester into resentment. In order to avoid this you need to take a couple of simple steps that will ensure he does his fair share of the calling, if not all of it.
Men adapt to what we, as women, do. If you begin a relationship with the mindset that you want to talk to your boyfriend on a daily basis, you’re more likely going to be the one to initiate the calling. If you don’t hear from him by the end of the day, you’ll pick up the phone and call him. If this scenario repeats itself day-after-day you’re going to fall into a rut where the only person doing any of the calling is you.
All you need to do to find better balance in your relationship is to stop calling your man. Even if you don’t hear from him for a day or two, don’t panic and start dialing his number. You have to show your man that you aren’t going to be the one doing all the work. Showing him is much more effective than telling him. Simply, stop calling and before long, he’ll start.