When me and my boyfriend broke up, I felt like many women do, I was devastated. I didn’t want the relationship to end. In fact, he was the man I imagined spending my future with and realizing that he wanted something different broke my heart. Initially, I thought that my only option was to accept the split. However, I soon realized that there were things I could do to influence how he was feeling. I could get him back if I set my mind to it.
One of the first things I did after me and my boyfriend broke up was I promised myself that I wouldn’t contact him. I knew from past failed relationships that one of the worst mistakes any woman can make is to constantly call her ex. I’d done that and it only caused me more heartache. If you appear desperate to any man he’ll label you desperate. Men don’t want to be with desperate women. So you can’t act this way. Do your best to not talk to him for at least a few weeks after the split. Don’t get worried that he’ll find someone else in that time. He likely won’t and if he does, it won’t last.
When me and my boyfriend broke up I was also tempted to talk to mutual friends about what had happened. I thought that if I told them enough about what had happened between me and my ex that they would go to him to talk some sense into him. That would have been a monumental mistake. A much better way to utilize those mutual friends is to let them see you being happy, content and moving on after the split. When your ex asks them how you are, they’ll tell him that you are doing great without him. Hearing this will make him wonder about what you are doing and who you are doing it with. Once those thoughts enter his mind he’ll be thinking about you more and more and it will only be a matter of time before he wants to see you himself to hear what’s going on with you. Men always want what they can’t have and if he thinks he can’t have you back, it will make him want you even more.